So last week I began a series on raising spiritually minded children. I’ve been questioning what I really want to communicate through this series. Because “10 Ways to Raise Spiritually Minded Kids” may be helpful…but it isn’t the best parenting advice I could ever give you.
For that, there’s something I really need to say.
So here goes.
Most of the “Christian” parenting stuff I read seems inherently wrong.
Because: It operates on the basic assumption that the parent is good.
For example:
We want to spend time with our kids but we don’t know how.
Solution: 101 things to do with your toddler.
We deeply desire to speak kindly and show patience when correcting our rebellious child; we just can’t seem to pull it off.
Solution: How to stop yelling in 30 days.
We receive joy at the prospect of selflessly serving our children, even when they are mean and unlovely; but we lack the time to do it.
Solution: Organize your life and live on cloud nine (!!!!!).
But what about when you don’t want what’s right or you don’t desire to deny yourself or don’t receive joy in well doing? What then?
What is inherently missing in the self help sort of approach to writing parenting articles is that it doesn’t get at the root of our most basic issue. It does not answer the fundamental question of “What do I do with my sin?” Because honestly, most of the time it isn’t that I don’t know how to spend quality time with my children; it’s that other things are more important.
Let’s just be honest.
And sometimes I downright resent the demands of my family and am perfectly content to give them my leftovers. What of that?
I am not saying I never enjoy my children or delight in serving them; but there is no point in reading and pinning an article that gives me ideas when what I really need is my sin issue dealt with. No expert can give me 3 quick steps to obliterating selfishness. Neither is there an eBook on miraculously changing my hard heartedness or removing self protection from my marriage bed.
That’s because only the Gospel can do that.
The last thing I want to do on my blog is give 10 steps without giving real hope. Friends, there is hope in the gospel. Let it be heard in sin-sick hearts everywhere.
Your sin issue? Is dealt with. The gospel tells us that we CAN change and we CAN live godly and we CAN reflect God’s glory and we CAN be the aroma of Christ in our home and we CAN change the legacy of our family line.
Because of Christ.
There is an allure to “10 Ways” and “Top Five” and “How to…” articles to be sure (which is why people write them.) But we need to know where to turn when facing the depth of depravity in our own mom heart– the heart that is supposed to nurture, protect, and selflessly serve your own but, in fact, does not.
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