Meghan Markle revealed Wednesday that she suffered a miscarriage in July. In an opinion piece titled “The Losses We Share,” published in the New York Times, the Duchess of Sussex opened up for the first time about her “unbearable grief,” and called for society’s need for empathy in a time of painful loss and isolation.
In the op-ed, the 39-year-old describes a normal July morning feeding her dogs, taking her vitamins, and changing her son Archie’s diaper. That’s when she began feeling a sharp cramping.
“I dropped to the floor,” Markle wrote. Adding, she had a “sense that something was not right. I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”
“Sitting in a hospital bed, watching my husband’s heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine, I realized that the only way to begin to heal is first to ask, ‘are you ok‘?”
“Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few,” she continued.
Her announcement comes just two months after Chrissy Teigen very publicly suffered a miscarriage with her third child, a son named Jack. Just last week, Duck Dynasty star Rebecca Robertson also revealed she had suffered a miscarriage.
According to research from the Mayo Clinic, an estimated 10 to 20 percent of known pregnancies end in miscarriage.
Despite the “staggering commonality of this pain,” wrote Markle, “the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.”
In addition to opening up about her and Prince Harry’s loss, the former actress touched on the overwhelming load of grief and isolation that has been experienced by so many in 2020.
“This year has brought so many of us to our breaking points. Loss and pain have plagued every one of us in 2020, in moments both fraught and debilitating,” she wrote.
She discussed the Black Lives Matter movement and the need to check in on one another in order to make “the load of grief” lighter.” She also talked about the “division” and “polarization” that has come from the recent U.S. election in which many are “feeling more alone than ever.”
“We are adjusting to a new normal where faces are concealed by masks, but it’s forcing us to look into one another’s eyes,” she wrote. “Sometimes filled with warmth, other times with tears, for the first time in a long time as human beings we are really seeing one another.”