We’ve all heard it said, “marriage is hard.” And while that may be cliché, I will say as someone who has been married for over eighteen years, that marriage IS hard. The cliché is true. It takes so much work, and when the stresses of work, money, and parenting small children come into play, sometimes we can get distracted from focusing on that all-important marriage relationship. If we get distracted long enough, that relationship can easily fail. The statistics say that half of marriage relationships do, and it’s always a tragedy.
This week on Facebook, I read a marriage story that was quite unusual these days. Blake and Heather Higginbotham’s story didn’t start out all that differently than many, however.. Like many couples out there, they married young. They quickly had three kids, but the stresses of life and parenting soon got to them and their relationship, and their marriage fell apart. At the time, Blake said in a recent Facebook post, their divorce was “bitter.” Unfortunately, an acrimonious divorce with little kids involved isn’t that unusual, either.
But stay tuned…here’s where there story starts to get unusual.
Recently Blake Higginbotham posted some engagement pictures on Facebook with a heartwarming message. After his messy divorce three years ago, he had good news to share.
But it wasn’t HIS good news…it was his ex-wife’s! In a post that has quickly gone viral with over 40,000 shares, Blake posted his ex-wife Heather’s engagement pictures with her new fiancé to Facebook with an inspiring message. He said:
“This is my ex wife. The mother of my 3 children. The woman who brought all 3 of my children into this world.
We got married young , had 3 beautiful children and had a bitter divorce.
3 years later , that relationship is much different. We share the kids evenly and support them in everything they do. We act as a team.
The man she’s with is a great guy. He’s great to my kids and they love him to death. As a father , I couldn’t ask for anything more. I sincerely wish you both the best. I’m thankful for many things including yalls relationship.
To anyone divorced, I encourage you with all of me to try and look at this from a different angle. Just because you didn’t workout as husband and wife doesn’t mean you can’t be mom and dad.”