All eyes are on Meghan Markle this week as the new mom opened up about the real and raw struggles of motherhood.
In a rare interview with ITV, the Duchess of Sussex championed for moms everywhere with one simple statement: No one asks if they’re OK.
News anchor Tom Bradby asked the 38-year-old how she was doing under all of the intense media scrutiny since becoming a royal and a new mom.
The usually very poised and very put-together former actress pauses as if she doesn’t know what to say.
It’s heart-wrenching to watch if I’m being honest. When Bradby initially asks the question, you can SEE Meghan do everything in her power not to burst into tears. You can FEEL the pressure that she’s under because as a mother, you’ve probably carried the same weight.
Actress or not, royal or not, this woman is a mother just like the rest of us. And in that moment, her vulnerability was on display for all to see.
She fumbles through her answer, trying to deflect the question by offering up difficult circumstances that every mother can relate to during pregnancy and having a newborn.
Eventually, the Duchess pauses mid-thought to say: “Thank you for asking. Not many people have asked if I’m OK, but it’s a very real thing to be going through behind the scenes.”
Meghan echoing her husband’s scathing statement to the press earlier this month, which confirmed the media attention has been very difficult for the couple.
Bradby presses the Duchess, who, became visibly emotional in her response.
“And the answer is…would it be fair to say, not really OK?” he asks. “As in, it’s really been a struggle?”
As the words flow from his mouth, there’s a look of relief that falls across Meghan’s face that can literally be FELT through the screen.
Without hesitation, she responds with a simple, “yes.”
It’s a place we’ve all been as mothers. Heck, you may even be there today. No one asks moms how we are doing. And as Meghan’s remarks prove, royal or not, this is something EVERY mom can relate to.
Sometimes, all it takes is someone asking us if we are OK for us to realize that we are very much not OK. That’s exactly what we watched unfold in this interview.
Meghan said not many people have asked her how she’s doing, and it would seem that only when faced with the question, was she able to realize that she’s not OK.
“Any woman, especially when they’re pregnant, you’re really vulnerable, and so that was made really challenging,” she said. “And then when you have a newborn, you know. And especially as a woman, it’s a lot. So, you add this on top of just trying to be a new mom or trying to be a newlywed.”
She summed up new motherhood in two words: “You know.”
It’s as if the weight of motherhood is so much that she can’t even put into words how challenging, grueling, exhausting and overwhelming it is.
All she can say, all any of us can often say is, “You know.”
It’s those two words that sent a shockwave around the world, reminding mothers everywhere that motherhood is hard, we are often overlooked, and even Meghan Markle is not OK.
The internet rallied in support of the Duchess
“I just want to thank Meghan Markle for saying she’s not OK instead of some fluffy PR response,” wrote Twitter user Ashley Simpo. “The idea that women can do it all, mothers are superheroes and parenthood is obvious are hurtful, ignorant and damaging to women. We’re not OK. Millennial parenthood is (expletive) hard.”
This made me so emotional. Pregnant women need support. Moms with newborns need support. Moms need support. This woman is doing all of this & her life is under scrutiny 24/7. She is amazing! #WeLoveYouMeghan https://t.co/e70AJU3KTn
— its leviOsa⚯͛ (@itsleviOsa934) October 19, 2019
The strength it was taking for her not to cry is so obvious, she’s amazing and I cannot imagine how she’s doing this
— Mama Bat 🦇👻🎃 (@mamafruitbat) October 19, 2019
Jesus. This just broke my heart. pic.twitter.com/13KsROklv9
— Greg Hogben (@MyDaughtersArmy) October 18, 2019
Mamas, we have to do better. We have to start asking each other the hard questions—those which sometimes feel so simple, but really carry the weight of “you know” behind them.
Because of course moms are not OK. We are exhausted, we are hormonal, we are surrounded by the unsolicited advice and pure judgments from everyone around us and complete strangers alike. We are pressured, we are trapped by comparison, and we desperately need support to navigate the emotional workload of being a mom.
So let’s be intentional today. Let’s ask how moms are doing, and let’s run the race together.