We stop living authentically and making decisions that reflect our true values because we’ve confused our priorities as a result of trying to juggle way too many things at once. We have no boundaries, we have no energy, we have no peace and beyond simply surviving each new day, we lose site of who we are and what our purpose is.
These are often the realities of living life without a village – it’s not very pretty, and often it may seem like there’s not much that you can do to correct the issue. I feel you girl, I do.
But you and your family are too important to continue going through life without some sort of village supporting you. Eventually you have to decide to fight for the things that you really need. You have to start seeing yourself as worth caring for and investing in.
Coming from someone who has struggled to find her village for her entire life, and who is still navigating how to cultivate village life where she’s at, I can tell you that it. is. important.
Village life is deeply nourishing to the soul of a woman. We were meant to cry, laugh, mourn, celebrate, struggle and grow together.
But to do so requires us to show up bravely each and every day, practicing vulnerability as we move through all of life’s ups and downs hand-in-hand.
In many ways, we may not be in a position to change our circumstances. But, we always have the choice to change how we approach living our lives, and when we make the choice to start honoring ourselves and our needs we have taken the first step toward cultivating the kind of village life we were created for.
There’s never an easy fix for the biggest struggles in life, and I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t see any quick and easy solutions for the challenge of cultivating community in a village-less culture. But we can decide to simply show up, honor ourselves in our choices, boundaries and expectations and reach out.
Inspired to begin actively cultivating my own village as a result of years of not honoring my needs, boundaries and priorities, I decided to create what I was looking for – a space for other wives and moms struggling to find and connect with their people.
My heart hopes deeply that if you are a wife or mom reading these words, you would either feel confident and grateful that you do have a supportive, encouraging village to call your own OR that you would feel moved to stop the soul-sucking pattern of trying to make it through life on your own and find your tribe.
If you fall into the second category, I would LOVE to welcome you into The Home Loving Wife Sisterhood, a brand new monthly membership community specifically designed by me with busy wives and moms like you in mind. It is a place designed to inspire, encourage, support and equip you to pursue peace, purpose and joy in your everyday life as a wife and mom.
Through daily conversation prompts, weekly live coffee chats, monthly workshops, a monthly book club and so much more, The Sisterhood will provide you the opportunity to build deep and meaningful relationships right where you’re at, no matter what season of marriage or motherhood you’re in.
This article originally appeared The Home Loving Wife.
