Have you seen those memes that celebrate the weekend…but not really? You know the ones…the ones where we moms lament the loss of the opportunity to rest that comes with motherhood?
I’m not here to dispute the accuracy of these memes, although I do look forward at LEAST to the break that the weekend gives me from the “have everyone dressed and out the door by 7:30” routine, FOR SURE. I think stay-at-home moms feel the weight of these “rest-less” weekends the most, because their day job is taking care of the kids and the house. Having been one for seven years before I re-joined the workforce, I remember the feeling all too well. My husband used to have to work every-other-Saturday, and let me tell you, that would seem like AGONY after some particularly hard weeks at home with the kids. I looked forward to the weekends, more than ANYTHING, to have my husband there to help me parent during the day, to shoulder the burden of clothing, feeding, entertaining, teaching, and chauffeuring three children.
That’s why when I saw this post from Dale Partridge on Facebook, it resonated with me BIG TIME. Partridge, who is a professional blogger who’s made news a few times with his outspoken opinions on Christian marriage, sounded off Friday on the subject of stay-at-home moms and their weekend duties. While acknowledging that he works all week, too, he admonished husbands to consider their wives’ needs for rest. He posted a photo of his wife Veronica with one of their kids and said these powerful words:
She spends all week serving me and the kids. I spend all week serving the bills. Most men think it’s a fair trade, but I doubt it. Husbands, we are no more entitled to a restful weekend than our wives. The badge of “breadwinner” doesn’t authorize us to escape our home duties come Saturday and Sunday. The luxury of rest is a gift many men steal from their wives each weekend. Remember, the 40-hour work week is a cultural standard, but God tells us to share our wive’s burdens and protect her from strain. It’s okay to rest, God even commands it, just make sure you’re not the only one doing it. #DaleyWisdom
She spends all week serving me and the kids. I spend all week serving the bills. Most men think it’s a fair trade, but I…
Like I said, I’ve been there, (and even now, as a work-at-home mom, I still bear the brunt of child care, after school homework duty, meal preparation, etc.) and I love the way Partridge calls husbands to be weekend warriors and serve the family alongside their wives on Saturday and Sunday. I’m blessed to say I have a husband who partners with me in this each weekend, and I pray you do, too!