5 Life-Changing Things I Want My Kids to Know

My momma used to say, “Hindsight is 20/20.” But I never really understood what that meant until I was old enough to look back and discover that time is like a really good teacher that showed up to give you all the answers after you already graduated.

Looking in the rearview mirror of my mom journey has had a way of bringing clarity to what I couldn’t see when I was smack dab in the middle of it.

It’s so easy to get caught up in being a mom that you forget to focus on the ultimate goal. Today, I want to share with you five things I want to my kids to know.

Not just when they are young, but when they are in their teens, their 20s, their 40s and their 80s.

The things that will stick like velcro to their hearts and will remain for the rest of their lives.

Maybe you haven’t really thought about it yet … you know, those things you want to be sure to seal in the hearts.

Today, I’m looking in the review mirror of motherhood and taking a few minutes to share with you my top five.

1. God loves you with a relentless love—Period. The end. Not because of what you do or don’t do. Not because of how much you serve Him, how many times you’ve read the Bible, how many people you’ve witnessed to, what kind of grades you got in school, what kind of job you have, who you married, how many kids you have, how much money you make or what kind of house you live in.


Nothing can add to that love. Nothing can diminish it.

You may not love Him, but He will never stop loving you.

2. This life isn’t really about this life, so live it intentionally, passionately, faithfully—It’s easy to get caught up in the moment, in the rat race, in being number one, looking out for number one and making a name for yourself. But the moments that make up your life are made up of opportunities to make an eternal difference in the lives of those around you and change the world one life at a time.

Be responsible for what you’re responsible for. Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today. And don’t just let life happen, make it happen … prayerfully, strategically, working hard and being a testimony of integrity and faith.

Make your eternity intentional. You’ll have forever to be glad you did.

3. Identity is the key—When you become a Christian, everything changes … including your identity. You not only become a new creation in Christ, you also ‘put on’ Christ. The Bible says you have all things that pertain to life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3) and that you are more than a conqueror (Romans 8:37). That is who you are when you receive Christ, and discovering how to become who you really are is the key to walking in the victory that is yours and the joy that comes with your new identity.

Never let the lies of this world, the whispers of your heart or anything anyone else says make you think you are less than who Christ died to make you.

4. Failure is never final, and you have to give yourself and others room to fail and room to grow—Living life means failure is inevitable. You will fail at something and so will those you know and love. But those failures don’t define you. How you handle them will. Look at your failures as opportunities to be better, stronger, more creative, more diligent. Look at the failures of others as an opportunity to extend grace, compassion and prayers.

5. Don’t sweat the small stuff—Life is too short to make mountains out of molehills—to miss the roses along the way—to fret about the trivial—to argue about the insignificant. In the grander scheme of things, it’s always good to ask yourself how big of a deal things really are. If you sweat the small stuff, you’ll miss sweet stuff along the way.

Life is made up of moments that matter. Don’t miss a one … and don’t be the cause of others missing them.

There are a ton of other words of wisdom I want to tuck in my sons’ hearts.

  • The kind of things that will help them trust God when their trials are big and their faith is small.
  • The kind of things that will give them the character to do what is right no matter whether or not others are looking.
  • The kind of things that will help them be bold, courageous and dangerous for the Kingdom of God.
  • The kind of things that will help them live well, love unconditionally, laugh a lot and give generously.
  • The kind of things that will help them be world-changers, faith-builders and legacy-leavers.
  • The kind of things that will help them be men who love God and their families.
  • The kind of faith that will make them be men who point people to Jesus, not only by what they say, but by the way they live.


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Stephanie Shott
Stephanie Shott  is a pastor’s wife, mom of two adult sons, abuela (grandma), writer, speaker and Bible teacher who loves Jesus like crazy and loves ministering to the hearts of women. She founded The M.O.M. Initiative with a passion to help the body of Christ make mentoring missional.