It was one of the most unusual moments I can remember in our entire marriage.
My husband and I were driving home from a trip and spending much time in the car.
I decided to pose a question to him about one of my upcoming blogs.
“Honey, I’m writing an article about ‘5 Things That Every Husband Loves to Hear.’
Do you have any suggestions for my article?”
- He didn’t blink.
- He didn’t stammer or stutter.
- He didn’t pause.
- He didn’t even take much of a breath.
- My very laid-back, calm, easy-going, slow speaking husband from Texas didn’t hesitate.
He immediately gave me a list of 5 things he loves to hear and would love to hear more often.
I had to write as fast as I could write to keep up with him.
Within 10 minutes, I had an incredible list!
And, so, I offer you the wisdom of this great man I’ve lived with for almost 25 years now.
Here are 5 Things That Every Man A LOVES to hear from the Woman in His life:
1) I Respect You!
Even after all of these years, I still respect you.
“So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
–Women need love.
–Men need respect.
Here are some practical ways to communicate respect to your man:
~ Ask his opinion and listen to what he has to say.
~ Respond without arguing with him.
~ Don’t put him down to your friends.
~ Don’t belittle or make fun of him in public.
~ Don’t belittle or make fun of him in front of the kids.
~ If you disagree, try to still treat him with consideration.
~ Speak highly of him to friends and family.
2) I Appreciate You as a Man!
“I appreciate you and who you are as a man of integrity. I am so grateful for who you are.
I am thankful that I am your wife/girlfriend.”
Here are some practical ways to communicate appreciation to your man:
~ Come up with 3-4 things you really appreciate about your man.
His Sense of humor,
His Compassionate way of dealing with people,
His Intelligence, or
~ Tell him at least one of these attributes that you appreciate.
3) I Appreciate What You Do!
“I am thankful for all that you do for us – for working hard, for giving your best, and for providing for us as you do.
Here are some practical ways to communicate appreciation for what your man does:
~ Use your words and thank him.
~Make a big deal in front of the kids for something he did.
~ Brag to his friends and your friends over something he did.
~ Give him a big hug and whisper your gratitude to him.
4) I Love You!
“We like to hear it too.
We like to know that you love us!”
Here are some practical ways to communicate love to your man:
~ Give him lots of hugs and kisses.
~ Send him a nice note, card, email or text message.
~ Buy him a little gift that he will really enjoy.
~ Do some kind act of service for him – wash his car, make his favorite meal.
~ Spend time with him doing what he loves to do – go to a ballgame or an action movie with him.
5) I Think You Are the Best, and I Would Choose You if I had it to do All Over Again!
“I’m really glad that I picked you.
You are the best one, and I would pick you again.“
(Our Wedding day is pictured below).
Here are some practical ways to communicate to him that he is still the best one to you:
(This one really makes me think of some old songs. Maybe you can use one of these titles to communicate your love).
~“You’re the ONE that I want.”
~ “I can’t stop loving YOU.”
~ “I will always love YOU.”
Many years ago, I was water skiing with two of my best friends. My dad was driving us around the lake on a gorgeous summer day.
At one point we stopped to rest and have a snack. As we paused, my dad started talking to us about boys.
We were all single at the time.
My dad teased us a little, and then he asked a very serious question:
“Isn’t there some guy out there that you girls RESPECT?”
I don’t know who my friends pictured when he posed the question.
But, when my dad asked that question, I immediately thought of Randy.
Randy was a single guy at our church who I thought very highly of.
Not long after that boat trip, all three of us girls were engaged; all of us married men that we really respected within a year of that day at the lake.
And, we are all still married to those same good men—after 25 years.
My man just happens to be named “Randy!”
(We are pictured below at a recent wedding).
To my friends who are men:
- We honestly don’t always know what to say to you. We get it wrong sometimes.
- If your lady isn’t telling you these sorts of things, you could share the list with her!
- If you do it gently, she probably won’t mind. You could even send her a link to this post~
Let me know what you think—how’s my list?
To my friends who are women:
As wives and as women, we have a completely different set of needs and things we like to hear. (I’ll write that post soon).
- But, our men are wired to want to hear from us words like my husband shared with me.
- They want to know we admire them.
- They like to hear how much we appreciate them for who they are.
- They want to hear our appreciation for things they do for us.
- They like to hear that we love them.
- And, they like to know that we would choose them again if we had the chance.
Maybe you will want to test these out on your man??
What do you think??
Blessings to you as you seek to communicate better with each other!