A Letter to My Daughters About the Man They’ll Marry

My dear sweet girls hold out for the love of your life, don’t settle for just love.

I have seen it over and over again, people who got married because they were in love with the person and after awhile marriage was the next step. Let me tell you a little secret, you will love many people in your life and you will experience all kinds and types of love, and they all have a place but marriage should be reserved for the love of your life.

I was one of the lucky ones, really and truly I was, because I met the love of my life at 17. I did not know it then but as I look back I am so grateful that I met my husband so young in life. I have had 15 years with this man and I look forward to many, many more because he truly is the love of my life. I never had to make the heart-wrenching decision to end a relationship with someone I loved because while there was nothing majorly wrong,  there was nothing amazingly right. I know those who have and I have held the hands of friends and dried tears only to one day celebrate with them when they found the love of their life.

I knew your dad was the love of my life when I realized I could not stand the idea of a life without him, not because I was so used to him in my life but because I knew that the ache of missing him would never go away.

I knew he was the love of my life because he made me want to be a better person in all areas of my life.

I knew he was the love of my life because he challenged me to be my best and cared enough to help me learn and grow.

Your father and I work as a team because we both put the other person first not out of obligation or a sense of martyrdom but out of love.

Love is a choice, love is a choice, love is a choice. That is something you must never forget.  When rough times come, and they will, loving your husband will be a choice that you make not a feeling you have. And in that moment when you choose to love it will be that much easier to do when you are married to the love of your life. My world is more beautiful because of his love and that is what I wish for you. I know our marriage will last because we are honest and open and truly, madly and deeply in love. We share common faith, values and goals and are working to get there as one.

There will come a day when you first feel like you are in love and it will not be true and real and lasting and your heart might break, but I will be here. And then when the day comes that you find the love of your life I will rejoice with you, I just hope and pray you are brave enough to hold out for the love of your life.

Because that is my wish for you, a love that rivals the one that I enjoy every day coming from the man I am lucky enough to call my husband.

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Ellen Peppercorn
Ellen is a busy mom of 5 girls who can be found online at ThatChicMom.com writing about fashion, beauty, great products and motherhood, that is when she’s not playing the role of highly caffeinated chauffeur. She is also owner of That Chic Mom Tees an Etsy shop featuring stylish tees for woman.