Last night I was innocently cruising Facebook when I was assaulted by the near-nude yet jewel-encrusted bodies of Beyoncé, Jennifer Lopez, and Kim Kardashian. They were in attendance at the very fancy, A-list Met Gala in New York, and for some reason all three thought that they should wear blingy clothes that pretended to cover their bodies but really didn’t. Beyoncé and Kimmy K even gave fans an erotic sneak-peek on their Instagram accounts.
I’m not going to show you the Instagram photos, but you can’t get on the interwebz today without tripping over them.
Let’s lay down a few facts about these three ladies:
1) All are rich and famous.
2) All are successful businesswomen.
3) I’m honestly not sure about Kim (just being honest), but JLo and Bey Bey are insanely talented.
4) All three are mothers of daughters.
5) All three were fearfully and wonderfully made for a purpose by a loving God.
And here’s the thing. I’ve heard each of these women talk about feminism, equality, and respect for women. You can easily find 100 different listicles of inspiring Beyoncé quotes on feminism with a quick google search. Sound bytes like this one:
“We all have our imperfections. But I’m human, and you know, it’s important to concentrate on other qualities besides outer beauty.”
..,and this one:
“We have to teach our boys the rules of equality and respect, so that as they grow up gender equality becomes a natural way of life. And we have to teach our girls that they can reach as high as humanly possible.”
And I gotta tell ya: I think when you stick out your barely-covered booty on a red carpet or your own Instagram account so that they entire world can see just how fiiiiiine that rump is? You’re turning all your feminist quotes to crap. And what’s more? You’re telling your daughters that your body is what really makes you stand out.
So Beyoncé, JLo, and Kim, allow me to be bold and tell you what message I believe you are sending to Blue Ivy, Emme, and North, your precious daughters. Not to mention my precious daughter and all the impressionable girls in the world.
1) You are telling your daughters that your body is to be flaunted. Ladies, I do not believe this will serve our girls well. They should not be ashamed of their bodies, but they shouldn’t be showing them off with pride, either. A “look at me” presence is generally not beneficial in this world. Romans 12:3 comes to mind: “I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment…” By wearing your see-through dresses on the red carpet, you are teaching your girls that putting their bodies on display is a great way to get attention, and that’s a dangerous path to start them down.
2) You are telling your daughters that a perfect appearance is supreme. Why wear a sheer gown that shows off your perfectly-toned and sculpted body unless you think that it is really important for everyone to know that you do NOT require any assistance from shapewear? Only a flawless body can pull off a look like that – and by showing yours off, you’re showing where your priorities lie. In addition, in 1 Timothy chapter 2, women are told to dress modestly, and although there’s a lot of debate about what that means…I don’t think your see-through dresses are anywhere close to modest, and your perceived attitudes about them certainly aren’t.
3) You are telling your daughters that they can do whatever they want with their own bodies. This is a lie that can only hurt them. No one else should rule over your daughter’s body, but she should not grow up thinking that her body has no effect on others. I am a married woman, and ladies, I don’t want my husband or anyone else’s husband confronted with your glittery butt crack. I also just really, really, don’t want my daughter to think that your perfect body in that getup is the standard of beauty she should strive for – yet our culture reveres you for just that. Your dress is affecting what our girls see when they look in the mirror. I believe with all my heart that this is true. So, please, please – don’t do it anymore. There were dozens of gorgeous, modest, haute couture looks on the red carpet last night – I’d love to see you rock one of those!
Hollywood Moms, I realize that in writing this I will get some flack. I will be called “judgmental”. But I do not think that dressing this way makes you a bad person or changes any of your achievements. However, I believe you have made a wrong and unhealthy choice for yourselves and the girls who look up to you, and I hope in the future what I notice most about you on the red carpet is a self-confident smile that comes from knowing that you are just as amazing and noteworthy in jeans and a sweater as you are in ten-thousand dollar bedazzled couture pantyhose.
Dear Hollywood Moms, please, please, please: stop objectifying yourselves. You’re worth SO much more than just your bod. Start dressing like you believe it!