A regular mom just like you and me caused quite a stir on Facebook earlier this week when she posted a super-raw postpartum photo and confession. Since she posted it September 12, Danielle Haines’ postpartum photo and post has been shared over 20,000 times! Her honesty about the crazy-emotional days just after one has a baby really struck a nerve with other moms, myself included. With my first child especially, I had a rough few postpartum days. In a world where we all feel constant pressure to be a PERFECT mom right from the get-go, Haines’ transparency is so refreshing! Her note about feeling so much pain as a mom because her mom abandoned her and her brother really touched, me too. God bless this brave mama! Her photo and post are below—what is YOUR response?
(Image: Danielle Hanes, Facebook)
This is a picture of me 3 days postpartum. I was so raw and so open, I was a f***ing mess. I loved my baby, I missed his daddy (he went back to work that day), I was mad at my mom, my heart hurt for my brother because my mom left us and now I had a little boy that looked like him, my nipples were cracked and bleeding, my milk was almost in, my baby was getting really hungry, I was feeling sad that people kill babies, like on purpose, I had not slept since I went into labor, I didn’t know how to put my boobs away, my vagina was sore from sitting on it while nursing constantly, I was kinda loosing my mind. Katiecame over and feed me the morning this picture was taken. She might have even stopped over to feed me lunch. Then one of my 7 sisters came that evening to bring the family dinner, Sarah. Sarah took this picture of me. She walked in with food and said, “Hi! How are you!?” I said, “I’m a mess.” We talked, she listened, she said, “I’ve been right where you are.” It helped to know she went crazy once too!!! Then she said, “I know this might sound crazy but do you have a camera? You look so raw and so beautiful.” I’m so glad she took this picture. She was just planning to drop off food. She ended up staying for much longer. I needed her. She knew it. I called Rachel, I needed her. I needed her to nurse my baby, I needed more help with his latch. I called Shell. I needed her to tell me my baby was ok. This is real PP mamas. Those of you who have done it before….will you share what your immediate PP felt like?
I had a magical Postpartum. It wasn’t easy but I was so supported and fed and reminded that the mothers before me had been through this part of motherhood, and that I’d get through it just fine too.