It’s Easy to Ask, ‘Where Were the Parents of an Addict?’

Where was I?  Frantically driving around the streets of Detroit, trying to find you, with tears streaming down my face, fear in my stomach, yet determination in my heart.

Just like other parents of addicts, we had a front-row seat to your destruction.

Where was I?  When you came to me in tears, saying that you had become addicted to heroin and didn’t know how to stop. We cried together, me rocking you in my arms again, promising you that we will get through this together.

Where was I?  When we searched for rehabs together, my head whirling that this was even reality, my sole focus on saving you, as you were in the bathroom vomiting from withdrawals.

Where was I?  For the next 10 years, I was by my daughter’s side, never giving up on her, riding the roller coaster of addiction that practically tore our family apart.  20 rehabs, detoxes, psych stays, 4 different states, countless overdoses, sleepless nights, jail stays, etc.  As a parent, when your child is sick with a disease, you never give up.

That’s where I was.  Go ahead.  Judge me.


This article originally appeared at A Mother’s Addiction Journey.

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Katie Donovan
Katie Donovan
Katie has spent over the last 20 years in the marketing, events and communications industry, working at companies such as CSR, Default Attorney Group and Chrysler. After experiencing the addiction journey, Katie left her marketing career, in order to focus on family recovery. She has now dedicated her life to guiding others through the overwhelming process of finding quality treatment for substance abuse, coaching families through their own recovery, and a consultant for the treatment industry. Katie is the Executive Vice President for FAN-Families Against Narcotics, on the Executive Committee board for Operation Rx, is a public speaker on addiction, and an advocate for treatment vs. incarceration. She has been with her husband John for 19 years, and they live in Macomb, MI with their 12 year old daughter Brooke and Labrador retriever, Biscuit.

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