Dear Daughter: I Don’t Want You to Grow Up to Be ‘Whatever You Want to Be’

dear daughter,

these days we say grace


and bedtime prayers.

we read through that tiny bible

and i tell you about how there is a God who loves you,

who made you, who has plans for you.

and you listen and you believe

because i can still scoop you up.

i can still hold on to you.

but someday,

someday you will hear different ideas.

you will be inundated with media

that screams a different message to you.

and like eve and that fruit, you will be drawn to this message.

and like eve and that fruit, it will destroy you.

e m p o w e r m e n t

you can do anything!

you can be whatever you want!

you can shatter glass ceilings!

daughter, the truth is,

the God who formed you in my womb,

who knit you together with a love

that we can neither understand, nor fathom.

He does not call you to be whatever you want.

this life isn’t about your goals.

it is about His plans.

it isn’t about what you can accomplish

but what He can accomplish through you.

it isn’t about how much you are able to gain

but about what He gave up for you.


i don’t tell you this to keep you from dreaming

or to discourage you from pursuing your passions

but so that someday

if your life doesn’t look the way you planned

if the audience you wanted isn’t there

if the door you’ve been banging on doesn’t open

you remember that God is for you.

and that it is His plans you should lean into.

Scripture says,

for I know the plans I have for you

plans to prosper you [eternally]

plans to give you hope [everlasting]

plans to give you a future [with Him]

Rick Warren said,

“you were made by God, for God.

and until you understand that

your life will never make sense.”

so daughter,

hear those messages.

that you are strong

that you are beautiful

that you are worthy

that you matter

but hear them humble

from the whisper of a God

who treasures YOU

more than all the riches that may come

from being whatever you want.


This article originally appeared at An Ordinary Adventure.

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Kayla McAfee
Kayla McAfee is a mama bear to Rooney, soon-to-be wife to Andrew, worshipper of Jesus, emotional rambler, and pizza fanatic. She is currently finishing up a never-ending degree in Early Childhood & Family Studies, planning a wedding, and staying at home with her strong-willed threenager. She finds writing to be the most therapeutic way to fumble through everyday thoughts on faith and family. Follow her blog at