If you were a Christian teen in the 90s (like me!) or 2000s, you may have grown up hearing slogans like “True Love Waits” or if you are a female, you may have even donned a “purity ring” as part of your vow to save sex for marriage. (Some of us managed to save sex for marriage WITHOUT owning a purity ring—shocking I know!!) Though I believe the campaign to encourage Christian teens to save sex for marriage because that’s the way God designed it is GOOD, I believe some of the messages that have been spread to teens (especially girls) through the “purity movement” over the past two or three decades are harmful, even though they were well-intentioned.
YouTuber Katie Gregoire, a Christian young adult herself, takes on the purity movement in this 5-minute rant and NAILS the way those messages can harm teens. She re-iterates the REAL reason we should save our sexual activity (and spoiler alert, it’s NOT for your MAN, girls) and takes the idea that Christians can forever LOSE their purity by committing this one particular sin.
Gregoire notes, and I fully agree, that the Church has basically been telling Christian girls for decades that having sex before marriage SPOILS them sexually (and let’s be honest, in general) for the rest of their earthly lives—a message that Christ’s blood shed for ALL our sins simply contradicts. She also notes the disparity in the messages given to Christian boys versus the message given to Christian girls, and while the message isn’t necessarily wrong, it sure as heck isn’t EQUAL, either.
But don’t let me tell you about it. Check out Gregoire’s passionate, insightful, and emotional rant above. And then, share it with your teens. It’s five minutes WELL spent—especially when she lets loose exactly WHY she’s committed to not having sex before marriage.
Thanks, Katie. You NAILED it, girl. And as a mom, I’m grateful!