I’ve Been ALL the Types of Moms. But THIS Is the Mom My Kids Will Remember

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I’m on an airplane for work right now contemplating my working mom life.

You guys, I have been just about ALL the types of moms.

I have been a part-time working mom OUTSIDE of the home.

I have been a part-time working mom from home.

I have done the odd freelance work from home, here and there.

I was a stay-at-home ONLY mom for the better part of 7 years.

Now I work full time. From home.

All of these seasons of work were hard. Some harder than others. All of them were important. All of them were what my family needed me to be doing at the time.

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For the moment, because I am in it, I want to talk about being a working mom.

Being a working mom is HARD. It is your son asking you to reserve him a historical fiction book for a book report from the library’s website as you are LITERALLY walking out the door to the airport on a business trip.

It is having your kids walk in from school and word vomit all their daily needs and experiences on you when you’re still working, on a video conference call with your speaker on mute.

It is moving instantly from employee to parent when the clock strikes 5 and you close your laptop. No pause, no breath, not even a second to transition. It’s homework, dinner, laundry, soothing concerns and sibling fights.

But it is also showing my kids that I care about doing good work. It is demonstrating work ethic and versatility. It is telling them that parents work hard 24/7 no matter what kind of jobs they do.

I would like to think that my kids saw me working hard as a stay-at-home mom, and the truth is, THEY DID. Every day.

But the truth is also, that they won’t remember most of it. Who remembers a whole lot about life before they went to school? The times we spent together and the foundation we built during that time will always be there, but for them, the memories won’t.

My youngest son is seven. My oldest, fourteen. And the girl in the middle? She’s eleven, and I KNOW she’s watching me closely these days.

THESE are the days they will remember.

They will remember me as a working mom. And so personally, and professionally, I’ll work to be the very best example to them. I will also be an example of how to fail and try again, FOR SURE. I will be an example of how to PRIORITIZE. An example of a mom who let the floors get dusty rather than say “no to playing an after-work board game.

I’ll do my best in this season. And I pray that when they get there in life, they’ll remember it — and do their best too.

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Jenny Rapson
Jenny Rapson is a follower of Christ, a wife and mom of three from Ohio and a freelance writer and editor. You can find her at her blog, Mommin' It Up, or follow her on Twitter.