In order to show appreciation, it takes a level of humility to put aside our own feelings and wants for the moment. But that’s the beauty of marriage. Because if both parties do this, then, in the end, both will get what they ultimately want… empathy and appreciation.
So, the next time you stay at home moms or working dads are tempted to either lash out or retreat in because you don’t feel like your spouse understands what you do, instead choose empathy. Choose to take a step back and into your spouse’s shoes. Feel what they feel and try to understand the situation they are in every day. That empathy will allow you to express genuine appreciation. Empathy precedes appreciation.
Stop the crazy cycle. Be the first in your marriage to practice empathy and appreciation. Watch how God will use that to bring greater unity and growth to your marriage.
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This article originally appeared at the Brentwood Church Blog, published with permission.
