Being in a loving marriage is one of the most satisfying things you can do in life. Not only does it fill your days with passion, laughter, and security, but it can also improve your health. Yet, many couples who get married do not stay “until death do us part”.
It is estimated that between 35-45 percent of married couples will end up divorced. While this is nowhere near the staggering 50/50 ratio we once thought it was, it still isn’t a comforting statistic for those of us who are married.
There are many challenges that can create troubles within the marriage. Infidelity, financial troubles, the stress of raising children, working, and simply not having enough quality time together can all affect your happiness.
Don’t let your marriage become another statistic – be the one that lasts!
Here are 7 ways to strengthen a marriage and avoid divorce.
1. Talk Regularly
If you and your partner know how to communicate, then you are already ahead in the marriage game!
Communication will help you and your spouse learn how to view each other as teammates. It will deepen your marital friendships and improve your ability to solve problems without anger overwhelming you
Studies show that couples experience more fulfilling relationships when they trust one another fully. The more you communicate with your partner, the more you build that precious trust. This will allow you to feel safe and secure in your relationship.
Healthy communication between partners has been proven to boost relationship satisfaction, sexual satisfaction, and increased orgasm frequency in women. If those aren’t three great reasons to get talking, we don’t know what is!
2. Have a Regular Date Night
Research done by The National Marriage Project shows the many, many benefits of having a regular date night. Such benefits include:
- Boosted sexual satisfaction
- Reduce marital boredom
- Better communication skills
- Less likely to get divorced
Couples experience a significant decline in stress when they are spending quality time together. Doing what? Anything! Folding laundry, having a date night, or being intimate all fall under the umbrella of spending quality time together so long as you are talking and enjoying one another’s company.
3. Take a Marriage Course
Your marriage does not have to be in trouble for you and your partner to benefit from taking a relationship course.
You can take an online marriage course at home together. No counselor or awkward admissions to a stranger. Just you and your spouse curled up together take different courses that will no doubt help you draw closer.
An online marriage course will teach you and your spouse how to be compassionate, boost intimacy, create traditions and goals together as a family, and boost the all-important communication in your marriage.
4. Banish the Option of Divorce
One way you can remove the threat of divorce from your marriage is by banishing the mention of it.
Have you ever been in an intense argument with your spouse and uttered the words: “Why don’t we just break up then!”
You don’t mean these words, but you use them to hurt your spouse or to try and show them how serious you are about the issue at hand.
Even on a subconscious level, having the option of leaving the relationship can be damaging to your relationship.
Banish any thoughts or speech about divorce and seek to work through your problems, instead.
5. Take Care of Yourself
When your spouse first met you, you probably had a wide variety of hobbies and social activities that you loved to participate in. Now that you’ve been married for some time, some of these habits may have fallen away.
Do yourself, and your marriage, a favor by taking up the hobbies and activities that used to make you happy.
Another great way to take care of yourself is to exercise regularly and do things that make you feel good about your physical appearance. Dress up, make yourself smell good, and maintain a healthy diet. When you look and good, you boost your confidence which you take into your relationship.
6. Forgive Freely
Research suggests that one of the biggest traits that contribute to a successful marriage is adaptability.
Marriage is not always going to go your way. There will be surprises and bumps along your road to happiness, but you must learn to be adaptable in order to succeed.
The longer you are together, the more likely it is that you are going to hurt each other’s feelings. Whether it is accidental or intentional, use these moments as opportunities to grow.
If you said something hurtful during an argument, use it as an encouragement to learn how to communicate and solve your problems as a team. If there has been a betrayal in your marriage, practice forgiveness.
Forgiveness does not make you weak. Quite the opposite, it makes you stronger both as an individual and in your marriage.
7. Make Time for Sex
Not only is sex fun, but it is also an important way that you connect with your partner.
When you are intimate with your partner, you are boosting levels of trust between you.
There are many other benefits to being sexually intimate with your partner. For one thing, the oxytocin released during lovemaking has been proven to deepen your bond and increase emotional intimacy. An active sex life has also been proven to reduce anxiety, boost monogamy, and improve your health.
The divorce rate can be a daunting figure for couples, especially those who are getting married. In order to combat divorce, couples must communicate regularly, spend quality time together, and focus on boosting intimacy. With love and patience, you and your partner can get through any bumps in the road of marriage.