A Letter to 5-Year-Old Me Wearing Mom’s Wedding Dress

Hey, little girl in the wedding dress. I know you’re dying to grow up–but it’s not going to turn out like you think.

Dear Little Me,

I sat down to write you this letter and I wasn’t exactly sure where to start. But then I tried picturing you in front of me.


Everyone talked about how your eyes always sparkled, how you could never sit still. They talked about how you would dance from room to room, and how much you loved life. You always had such a joy and big dreams.

I remember well how devastating it seemed when you learned that your tiny, uncoordinated body would never be ballerina material. Or how becoming an olympic ice skater was not a good career choice for someone who got dizzy after spinning around once. I remember your world turning upside down when someone broke the news to you that becoming a cowgirl in Ohio probably wasn’t going to work out.

But I understand, being five is hard.


Little me, I wish I could tell you that you’ll quickly get over these “major hurdles,” and things will go back to being sunshine, butterflies and sparkles.

I wish I could tell you that life would always be this easy, and that the worst thing that would ever happen to you was a bad hair day (even though those will happen to you a lot).

But I can’t, little one.

Your life will have its highs and its lows, and at times it will feel like the lows far outnumber the highs. Your heart will be broken by people who promised they would never leave, and in those times the loneliness will feel overwhelming. There will be many times that you will want to give up because you feel like life couldn’t get any harder and going on seems unbearable.

Many of your dreams will slip away, and life will look very different from what you imagined. You will feel alone, discouraged, disappointed, sad, hopeless, tired and scared.

But little one, do not be afraid.

Because even in the depths of your darkest hours, you will feel a peace that surpasses all understanding.

You will feel joy that cannot be contained and overwhelming outpouring of love. You’ll find hope that does not come from things in this world, and a strength that does not come from within you, but from your Heavenly Father.

He will become your best friend.

There are a few things that I want to tell you.

1. Be thankful life didn’t turn out how you thought it would.

You always wanted to have this strong body that could do amazing things. Instead you will have one that is weak. But in that weakness you will learn what it truly means to rely completely on Christ. That very weakness will be your greatest tool to show how glorious Jesus really is.

Don’t be ashamed of how frail you feel. Don’t hide your scars. Show them off. Let people see the weakness—the real and hard times. It’s in those times that they will be able to see the strength of God. They will see that it is not the strength of your body or of your mind that gets you through each day, but instead only by the strength that The Lord provides.

Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 12:10, “That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”


2. Many times you will feel like you are stuck in this detour.

That you are waiting in this hard place until you can get back to your “actual” life. But remember, little me, the road God has you on IS the main road. Not only is it the main road, but it is the perfect road for you. It was designed by The Lord with more love and higher plans than you could ever imagine for yourself.

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares The Lord, plans to prosper and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” —Jeremiah 29:11


3. Always be pursuing Jesus.

There are a thousand more things that I could tell you, but let me end with this, keep your eyes on Him. Cry out to Him when you feel like no one is listening. Run to Him when you feel like you cannot take another step. Praise Him in the storm, AND in the quiet. Make Him your shelter, your hiding place and your anchor.

He is your Lord, your comforter, your Strong Tower, your hope, your strength, your good Father, your Mighty Savior and your best friend, little one.

“Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory. Whom have I in Heaven but you? And Earth has nothing I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart my fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign Lord my refuge; I will tell of all your deeds.” —Psalm 73:23-26, 28.

Allison Everett
I am just a 22 year old girl who loves sparkles, coffee and doughnuts. My heart and life belong to my best friend, Jesus Christ and my prayer is that I bring glory to Him in everything I say and do.