6 Ways The Christian Mom Can Avoid Homeschool Burnout

During the past 7 years of homeschooling I have experienced the joys of teaching my kids, seeing them grow in wisdom, skills and character.

And in this time, I have also experienced something else: homeschool burnout.

I’ve seen many other moms give up on homeschooling altogether because of it. Really, I can’t blame them.

We are educating multiple children, running a house, driving kids back and forth to activities, and some of us are even working from home on top of everything else.

Basically, we’re doing it all!

I, myself, have come very close to throwing in the towel. Along the way, though, I discovered that there were certain pitfalls I kept stepping into that were leading to me feeling frazzled and weary.

Here are several ways I have found to overcome homeschool burnout and, ultimately, enjoy teaching my kids again.

1. Don’t try to replicate school at home

So many of us try to make our homeschools look exactly like a regular school setting. We set up our school rooms like a typical classroom. We’ve got certain time slots set aside for different subjects. And we may even have a block schedule that mimics the regular school day, from 8 to 3.

But the reason we brought our kids home in the first place to educate them is probably because we realized something about that environment wasn’t working.

The great thing about homeschooling is that you can think outside the box, and tailor your child’s education to his or her own interests and strengths. It’s not a one-size-fits all type of thing!

But so often, we focus too much on making sure our kids get all their math facts down and the mechanics of writing and history dates right. And we end up missing out on the opportunity to form a great relationship with them, or even hurt this relationship in the process. We also miss the chance to address a lot of the stuff that gets in the way of our kids learning.

2. Focus on character first

It’s hard to teach a child spelling or algebra if you haven’t first addressed character issues beneath the surface. For instance, you ask your daughter to read a paragraph and she has a meltdown. Or your son gives you an attitude when you explain another way to work out a math problem. Or both kids start fighting over who’s going to do which part of the science experiment!

Their resistance to persevering through a tough subject, or receiving constructive criticism reveals a deeper heart issue that has to be dealt with. If things aren’t running smoothly and you find that you’re constantly butting heads with your kids, it may even be necessary to put academics aside for a season and focus solely on character.

I’ll be honest- I don’t like interruptions in my days or schedule. It’s much easier to just ignore the disrespect, laziness, and whining so I can continue with my agenda and mark everything done for the day! But it’s our job as moms both to train and discipline our kids.

Help strengthen their skills

We want to use these struggles to shape their character, so if they’re struggling with something like diligence, use practice sessions throughout the day where they work on strengthening attentiveness. Give them different instructions 10 times a day, and have them practice focusing on one single task, until it’s done.

Then have them come report to you, so you can check their work. This heightened accountability leads to a feeling of needing to act responsibly and complete a task all the way.

Use the Bible as a guide

We also want to point them back towards scripture. Again, if we’re trying to teach diligence, we can show them a verse such as Proverbs 6:6 that says “Go to the ant, you sluggard, consider her ways and be wise.” Or 1 Corinthians 10:31, which says “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.”

Using God’s Word to train up our kids in this way is instrumental in developing internal motivation, along with the Fruits of the Spirit. These, in turn, will help your child put forth their best efforts in their school work! So much of home education involves teaching those things that are not strictly academic.

3. Have Realistic Expectations

We get so discouraged when our kids don’t seem to be learning something in the time frame we think they should, or when something isn’t clicking for them. The good news is, there is no “behind” in homeschooling!

If they’re really struggling with certain concepts, they may just not be ready for them yet. Let them grow and mature a little bit, and try reintroducing a lesson again in a few months.

When my daughter was in 2nd grade, she struggled a lot with spelling and writing. It turned out she just wasn’t ready for that level of Language Arts yet, so ¼ of the way through the year I pulled out the 1st grade curriculum we had used the year before. I went over those concepts again and got her caught up. We spent the rest of the year redoing the 1st grade lessons.

If I had kept on pushing her to do something she wasn’t ready for, I know she would have become more frustrated and withdrawn- and there would have been a lot more conflict between us.

Trust me, those first glimpses of harvest will come into view if you don’t give up. Your daughter will eventually read through a book without pictures on every page, though it may not be on your timetable. Your son will figure out long-division, but it won’t necessarily be a result of that tried-and-true-works-for-everyone method.

Marisa Boonstra
Marisa Boonstrahttp://calledtomothering.com
Marisa is a homeschooling mom of two and author of Bucking The System: Reclaiming Our Children’s Minds For Christ, published in January 2016. She writes to encourage women to find purpose and joy in their God-given calling as mothers, helping them raise children with a biblical worldview. She relies on Jesus and coffee to get her through the day, and loves marveling at the cultural differences between New Jersey where she grew up and Oklahoma where her family has been transplanted! You can find more of her writings over at calledtomothering.com.

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