It’s no secret that motherhood is a mixed bag. One minute you’re overcome by love and adoration for these tiny humans you created, and in the very next breath, you’re yelling over the “wrong color plate” and wondering if you’ve lost your mind.
As moms, we can all use a little bit of peace in our household, and TikTok mom Destini Ann is here to tell us how to get it.
The single mama is popular on TikTok for her videos on parenting with positivity, peace, and practical tools. Just ask her 1.1 million followers.
In a video last month, Destini explains that she’s going to help stressed out moms create peace in their households with just one phrase: “We’re a team.”
“The quickest way to cooperation is collaboration,” she explains. “There’s no need to flex your authority on a 3-year-old. The hierarchy is obvious: you’re big, they’re little.”
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Destini says kids are well aware that parents are in charge. Reminding them of that does not solve a problem, nor does it actually reinforce the authority you hold over them.
“We don’t have to throw that in their faces then expect them to make responsible, empowered decisions,” she explained. “Imagine your boss being like, ‘I’m the boss, you’re the employee. Do what I ask you to do.’ First of all, rude. Second of all, I know you’re the boss — you write my paycheck. If you do this with your kids, you’re setting yourself up for everyday power struggles.”
Destini’s approach to discipline is less about laying down the law, and more about working with your kids to achieve success, together.
“We’re a team. That means three things are going to have to be mutual,” Destini says. “Number one, the kindness. Number two, the respect. Number three, a little bit of grace. That’s right, I’m gonna give you some grace. You know why? Because mommy is going to need a little grace every once in a while.”
