Mom Forces 6-Year-Old Birthday Party Guests to Give Their ‘Build-A-Bear’ Creations To HER Daughter

A rightfully confused mom took to Reddit over the weekend with a parenting tale for the books. She titled the post, “Kids birthday party: Is this normal or am I being entitled?” and Y’all, you cannot make this stuff up!

The mom detailed an upsetting experience she’d had earlier in the day after taking her 6-year-old daughter to a birthday party at Build-A-Bear Workshop.

She explains that the birthday party was attended by eight kids total and was not run by the store. So instead, they had cake and pizza in the food court before heading over to create their special BAB stuffed animals before closing out the celebration at the birthday girl’s house. The Redditor says she and her husband even pitched in an extra $30 to help off-set some of the cost to the birthday party mom.

But things did not go as planned.

Kids birthday party: Is this normal or am I being entitled? from r/Parenting

She says when they got to the store, the kids went “wild” making their animals and picking out all of the accessories. “As far as I know the parents didn’t really put a limit, but I made my daughter stick to just a standard dog with a shirt, which about half the parents did as well,” she says.

As they leave the store, “all is well” she says, until the birthday party mom does something they never saw coming.

“We leave the store, then friends mom announces that the kids need to give all their animals to her daughter,” she says. “Cue the upset and angry kids. They all disappointingly handed over their animals, and friend wasn’t even being nice about it either. Another little boy didn’t want to, and friend ripped it out of his hands.”

“I probably should have said something, but I didn’t,” she admits. “The other parents seemed pretty baffled too.”

But the party didn’t end there, and neither did the agony this mom had willingly inflicted on a group of 6-year-olds.

“We get back to friends house and our kids are watching as friend plays with all her new animals,” she recounts. “I left with my daughter pretty quickly, and once we got back into the car she just started bawling. I felt bad so we went to build a bear and got her a new one.”

You guys, this goes beyond upsetting just the children. These poor parents left the party with a whole new mountain of entitlement to work through with their heartbroken kids.

And what about the extra $30 this Reddit user pitched to help the mom out with the bear she believed her daughter would be taking home? Never mind the fact that they probably ALSO brought a present, having not known the Build-A-Bears would be gifted to the birthday girl. I would have been FURIOUS.

At the end of her post, the Reddit mom asks the community if she’s being an entitled parent, to which the internet agrees, on no planet is she the one being entitled here.

Several Redditors agreed that the premise of the party wouldn’t have been so bad if the birthday party mom would have communicated the plans up-front, like in the invitation. That would have allowed the parents to prepare their children’s hearts and explain the setup of the party. Still, many felt the idea was a bit off.

Some gave the birthday party mom the benefit of the doubt:

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Others were much less forgiving:

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In an update the Reddit mom added to her post after having a conversation with the birthday party mom on Monday, it would seem she remained clueless to the pure torture she put eight little 6-year-olds through.

“This afternoon at school pickup me and another parent had a chance to talk with the mom of the party,” she added to the post Monday.

When informing the birthday party mom that she was confused as to why the kids didn’t get to keep their bears—even after she pitched $30 to help cover her kid—she replied with a less-than satisfying explanation.

“Well I didn’t have enough money for each of the guests to make their own, that would get pretty expensive! If you want your money back I’ll see about getting it back to you. I don’t really see the problem though.”

The Reddit mom explained that it was pretty obvious the kids were going to be upset, having poured their whole hearts into their new creations only to give them away. Then she dropped this zinger that the whole internet has been asking for three days now: “I also don’t see why your daughter needs all these animals.”

She says the birthday mom walked away, “probably offended.”

“What bothers me is she said she ‘didn’t have enough money for all the kids to have one,’ but she did have enough for her daughter to get like 8 bears. Just doesn’t really make sense.”

She ended it by saying that she probably should have talked it out with the mom a little bit more, but as it stands, no one is fighting and she doesn’t plan to mention it to her again.

So we’ll all just be over here fist-palming our faces at the Karen’s of the world, and praying that other parents have the sensibility not to torture 6-year-olds like this EVER again.

Bri Lamm
Bri Lamm is the Editor of An outgoing introvert with a heart that beats for adventure, she lives to serve the Lord, experience the world, and eat macaroni and cheese all while capturing life’s greatest moments on one of her favorite cameras. Follow her on Facebook.

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