It’s leaving $100 tip on a $20 tab because you believe in your friend’s business and you see how much she poured her soul into that place.
It’s giving your friend extra room during Jazz because you know she has two left feet but you love working out beside her.
It’s reassuring your friend that just because she’s starting over in the trenches of motherhood, she won’t be left behind.
It’s cultivated when you’re the friend who collects frozen meals and gift cards, and drives thirty minutes one way to just drop it all off unseen because her family is in the process of mending from loss.
It’s built on storming heaven’s gates interceding with prayer because she’s in a battle she doesn’t have words to describe.
It happens over days and weeks and years of constantly investing in someone and making time for them. It’s a thousand little decisions to show up and be an extraordinary friend.
The sweet spot of friendship is unhusked in all of its glory after planting and tending to it day after day, in rain or drought.
My friend, if you’re lonely, my best advice is to love yourself enough to be the friend you’ve always wanted—especially when you are unfine. Especially in the mess. This is the YOU they want and NEED.
They don’t want to see the best version of you. They don’t want the poise and carefully applied makeup. They want the real, bold, messy, frail, stubborn, muffin top woman who struggles with her kids too.
Darling, we live in a world where we feel so very isolated and lonely, especially in 2020.
How do we change that? We don’t over think it, we just begin.
We are not supposed to do this alone. As much as I want to guard my heart, my poise, my reputation and your impression of me, God made me for relationships.
And you know what, life works the best when I am real and the same goes for you. Always.
Listen to me, because this is so important: don’t wait one more second for that friend to show up in your life. Go and do it and be it.
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