It is Not My Job to Entertain My Kids

Do you know the neatest thing? I remember one night, as a kid, when my parents had all of us kids sitting at the table cutting corn off the cob so that they could freeze it. Well, after an hour or two of this, I said to my dad, “could we have ice cream afterwards?” And I remember him looking at my mom, winking. Well, instead of ice cream from the freezer they packed us up, drove four miles and stopped at Dairy Queen. And, unlike normal, they let us order whatever we wanted.

Do you know why I remembered it?

Because getting the Peanut Buster Parfait after chores wasn’t normal. It was a gift. A reward. And I remember my dad saying to us kids about how hard we worked and how grateful they were for our contribution.

So remember that. When the kids grumble or you feel guilty. Because my parents didn’t entertain us – they made us work and taught us to value the moments, the freedom, and the space of the rewards of work.

Sometimes the simplest moments happen in the fabric of life and work.


For more on the value of hard work and learning the balance, check out Rachel’s new book, The Brave Art of Motherhood.


This piece originally appeared at, published with permission.

Rachel Marie Martin
Rachel Marie Martin
Rachel Marie Martin believes in the power of the human spirit to overcome, to thrive and to find deep joy and because of that she pours out her heart via these platforms: she is the writer behind the site, partner of, co-host of the Amplify Podcast, and a featured writer for The Huffington Post. Her top blog post, “Why Being a Mom is Enough” has surpassed 1.9 million Facebook likes and she has had her articles translated into over 25 languages. Her site reaches millions and has a robust, engaged Facebook community. Her articles have been featured by The Huffington Post, iVillage, IJR,  Star Tribune, iVillage, Stuff New Zealand, PopSugar, Parents, What to Expect, Mamalode, SheKnows, NBC Parents, Scary Mommy,, Dr. Greene, and many more. Her first book, "The Brave Art of Motherhood", published by Penguin Random House is available now.  She speaks worldwide about a variety of empowering topics ranging from motherhood to social media marketing to website strategy to writing to creating an authentic community. She believes in living each day intentionally and loves working with others to cultivate a vision, realize their potential and see their dreams become a reality.

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