Be the Kind of Pretty That Doesn’t Wash Off

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Facebook/Jamie Renee

In today’s filtered world of social media, it’s easy to erase certain imperfections from our images with the tap of a finger. Sometimes, we treat the hashtag “#nofilter” like a badge of honor, using it to proclaim that this picture we are posting is legit. That we are “keeping it real.” And sometimes, we use a filter because we just plain need one. We secretly hope that no one’s going to judge us for using one or needing one, and yet we also secretly judge those who do use them all the time: the same filter, the same pose, the person who only posts when their hair and make up is perfectly done. We judge, we snipe, we get jealous. We get caught in a vicious cycle of comparison and we let it color our view of others as well as of ourselves.

We talk about being authentic, but then we wear authenticity as another badge of honor: something to aspire to and for others to live up to.

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Basically, social media has messed us up in 1 million different ways. Comparison and judgment are chief among them. I’ll admit to rolling my eyes at Instagram posts from perfect looking people who only post when they have their fake eyelashes on. But, I think I’m done with that, after reading a Facebook post by blogger Jamie Renee. I just saw it yesterday, but it was posted on September 27 and has since gone viral with over 15,000 shares. Her message “let her do it,” is really resonating with me and a whole lot of other people as well.

Jamie Renee posted a picture of herself and said:

Let her do it.

If she uses a Snapchat filter every time she takes a picture, because it makes her feel pretty. Let her do it.

If she smooths out every wrinkle on her face before she posts the picture. Let her do it.

If she wears the same kind of shirt every
day because that’s the one she feels comfortable in. Let her do it.

If she takes gym selfies to track her progress every day. Let her do it.

If she poses the same way in every picture because she likes that angle of her body the best. Let her do it.

We live in a society where it’s hard to feel good enough. Yet I see women every day posting negative statuses like “stop using Snapchat filters to make your eyes look bigger, stop using the smooth tool, stop taking gym selfies….we get it.”

Why would you ever want her to stop doing something that makes her feel good?

Why does it matter to you?

If it makes her feel pretty…..even for a split second if it makes her feel good about herself…..

Let her do it.

Let’s focus more on building each other up, showing grace & kindness. Focus more on being pretty on the inside & that will be the kind of pretty that doesn’t wash off.. 💛🥂✌🏼
#fixhercrown#bekind#showgrace#lovewins

Ladies, call me convicted. What’s it to me if someone wants to only post pictures of themselves on Instagram when they feel pretty? Seriously, why does it matter to me? Perhaps I’ve been worshiping the god of “being real “and “authenticity” rather than the One who created all these varying levels of beautiful. When Jamie Renee says “be the kind of pretty that doesn’t wash off,” it resonates deep within my soul. Sure, I can rock a #NoFilter if I want to, but it means nothing if I’m not pretty on the inside.

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The truth is, we do live in a constant culture of comparison, and it’s just another type of spiritual warfare. We need to put on the full armor of God before we open that Instagram app, whether it’s to take a picture of ourselves or to look and see what everyone else is up to. I know Jamie Renee didn’t say anything about Jesus and her post, but I’m thankful that the Holy Spirit spoke to me as I read her words, and reminded me that I need to get into God’s Word and look at life, Facebook, and Instagram through the lens of the Scriptures.

I do want to be the kind of pretty that doesn’t wash off. And I know there’s only One Way for me to accomplish that. If you want to know more about it, I’d love to tell you.


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Jenny Rapson
Jenny Rapson is a follower of Christ, a wife and mom of three from Ohio and the editor of For Every Mom. You can email her at [email protected], or follow her on Twitter.