When I think about what I want for my kids it’s pretty simple to sum it up in a few words. I want them to be safe, happy and healthy. That’s what I pray for them every night. Three little words.
I want them to stay safe.
There are things I can’t control like tragic accidents and bad people in the world. For those, I pray. Safe. Please keep them safe. But I’ll also be their safety net. Kids make bad choices occasionally. Their developing brains do not always understand the consequences of their actions. I pray that their choices don’t cause them harm. And that when given the choice between a bad decision and a good one, if they make the bad one, they know they can always count on me to be there. I might not be happy about picking them up in the middle of the night from a place they weren’t supposed to be, but I’d take that 100 times over than the alternative of them getting in an unsafe car to get home.
I want them to be happy.
I want them to see silver linings and to realize life goes by too fast to get hung up on things you can’t change. I hope they learn to feel joy in the little things, to realize that they’re all little things. In hindsight, they’ll see that the things that held them back were never really obstacles, it was just perception. I want them to recognize our family as a source of laughter. A place of comfort and making sure they know no matter what they find out in the world, there’s always love in here.
And I pray for their health.
You can’t anticipate what life is going to throw your way. So I’ll do what I can to keep them healthy. Clean my house carefully during flu season, have them scrub their hands after school, stay up to date on doctor’s visits and vaccines. You don’t realize how important your health is until it’s gone. My prayers are to God to help watch over them. And for what we can’t avoid, that doctors, medicine and time will heal.
What I don’t need is for them to be an all-star athlete. I want them to have fun and feel camaraderie with their team.
I don’t need them to get straight A’s. They do need to try. I want them to give it everything they’ve got.
I don’t need them to be the most popular kid in school. In fact the pressure that goes along with popularity is great enough that it would be more gratifying to have a few good friends who actually care about them as people. Kids who help them make good decisions and whose parents
I trust to help guide their children in a similar way that I do. As I’ve grown older, I’ve seen friends come and go and realized how quality not quantity is important when it comes to people.
I don’t need them to like me every day. In fact, if I do my job correctly they’re going to not like me some of the time. I’m teaching them consequences for actions. I’m teaching nutrition, behavior, manners, and rules. I’m setting limits so they know where they are. Where they stand. Why they’re there. How to proceed.
I will help them to not get lost in all the rest. I’ll encourage passions and support where I can. But my prayer stays the same. For them to be safe, happy and healthy.
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