I know you feel overwhelmed by all the cooking, cleaning, working, and driving you do every day. You’re afraid to admit that this isn’t how you pictured motherhood. It wasn’t supposed to feel like a job. Me too. I keep thinking there has to be more to motherhood. Don’t take that more as another thing to do. The more I’m talking about is actually enjoying motherhood. Even though some days it may feel like it, they don’t hand out one-way tickets to boredom when you check-out of the hospital with your first kid.
I’m certainly not the Fun Director, that title is reserved for another friend but there is a big part of me that misses having fun. I’ve become so obsessed with everything I need to get done that I lost the ability to relax and enjoy what’s right in front of me.
I can feel you rolling your eyes right now. This all sounds too good to be true and there’s a million reasons why it won’t work in your life right now. I understand exactly how you feel because I’m doing it too—2 jobs, going to grad school, shuttling kids everywhere. None of these things are bad but sometimes it’s just too much. It’s not good for us.
What does fun look like for me?
Fun doesn’t sound like me anymore. There are little glimpses of life that I enjoy—racing trucks, sitting on the beach, reading, hearing my kids laugh—but those things seem so far away from what I do every day. I want to have fun with my kids and not cringe when I hear them say my name.
You know what I’d really like to do? I’d love to be able to go through my day and not feel like everything I’m supposed to be doing is crushing me. I just want to laugh and smile during the day without worrying about the next chore or deadline. I want to hang out with my kids and watch tv or help them without feeling rushed.
What is it going to take for motherhood to be fun?
