Mom Was Tired of Her Kids Fighting, So She Fixed It With This GENIUS Discipline Idea

The absolute best part is it builds the children’s character, learning how to work together on top of building relationships, while taking ownership for their behaviors. At first the kids thought the jar was a joke and resisted the consequences of the jar until the bottom line was spelled out. Do this … or spend the rest of the night in bed without supper. 

Here is a list of what our sticks say. We’ve had to tweak ours a few times as other behavior problems arose. I also reserved most of my purple sticks for my 5-year-old, because sometimes she just needs to laugh to get over the issue at hand. You can create the sticks to be color coded for each child or for specific behaviors.

Take out trash together

Play one round of Uno together

Share your tablet

Read a story to the other person

Say 3 nice things about the other person

Make the other person’s bed


Choose J.O.Y.—Jesus, Others, Yourself

Sweep Garage together

Set table together

Pray for the other person

Take the other person’s laundry downstairs

Organize toys together

Clean bathroom sinks together

Sweep and mop floors together

Load dishwasher together

Walk dogs together

Poop scoop together

Red Light, Green Light

Stair Sledding

Simon Says

Make other person a snack

Watch a movie together

Pick up the other person’s toys

Do the Hokey Pokey

Fold towels together

Go brush your teeth


Share your snack

Draw or write an I’m Sorry letter

Do one regular chore for the other person


Items needed:

  • Popsicle Sticks (colored or non-colored)
  • All purpose Labels
  • Sharpies or Pencil 
  • A clean non-sharp can or a mason jar

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Sit down with your kids and discuss the issues, behaviors, etc., and then ask them what kind of consequences they can do for each other or together. Begin marking them on the sticks. Explain that you will no longer be the one who will dole out consequences or break up fights—it’s up to them to get along. Ask for suggestions of fun things they can do to get over the issue and toss those into the jar as well.

When they resist the jar

Remind them of why they have the Get Along Jar and ask if they would rather be alone in doing chores or if they would like ______________ (fill in blank for the ultimate consequence).

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For more of Heather’s great perspective on motherhood, check out Heather’s book Mama Needs A Time-Out: Daily Getaways for the Mom’s Soul.

Heather Riggleman
Heather Riggleman
Heather Riggleman calls Nebraska home (Hey, it’s not for everyone). She roams small towns looking for stories and coffee with her husband and three kids. She writes to bring the perspective of bold truths and raw faith into universal concepts women face from marriage, career, mental health, depression, faith, relationships, to celebration and heartache. Heather is a former national award-winning journalist and the author of Mama Needs a Time Out and Let’s Talk About Prayer. Her work has been featured on Proverbs 31 Ministries, MOPS, Today's Christian Woman and Focus On the Family. You can find her on Facebook, Instagram Instagram, or at

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