One day last week, Ohio mom of two Charli Stevens was just doing what so many of us moms do on the regular — trying to make a quick trip to the grocery store with her infant. She had hauled her five-month-old into Kroger to buy some Christmas gift tags (because apparently she’s way more on top of her gift wrapping game then I am at this point. LOL.) However, because people just cannot seem to mind their own flipping business, Stevens’ quick errand soon went south. Unluckily for her, there happened to be a body shamer shopping with her at Kroger that day.
In a Facebook post has been shared nearly 500 times, Stevens explains how, thanks to the body shamer, she went from merrily shopping with her infant to crying in her car in the Kroger parking lot. She says,
I notice this woman, who was probably in her 50’s, kept staring at me…A couple minutes later, she came up to me and said “I think your clothes are a little too small on you.” 😳😳 Completely caught off guard and baffled and also hoping she didn’t say what I thought she said, I said, “excuse me?” And she said, “well no offense but you’re just a bit big to wear those type of clothes.” Instant tears. I didn’t know what to say. Usually I’m so quick to lash out at rude people and I’m never shy when it comes down to speaking my mind. But I froze. Froze and cried. She said, “I’m not trying to be mean but maybe just reconsider your outfit before leaving your house from now on.”
Stevens went home and posted a picture of herself and her outfit to Facebook, which you can see below. I mean, seriously, why would a stranger come up and comment when she is dressed like this?? I think strangers should mind their own business anyway, but it’s not like she was wearing a mini-dress with her rear end hanging out or showing some nipple for goodness sake!! I cannot believe this woman told her she should reconsider her outfit “before leaving the house from now on.” How about you reconsider walking up to a complete stranger and insulting her from now on?? That sounds like a way more sensible plan to me.
Photo Charli Stevens, Facebook
Stevens goes on to express her amazement at the body shamer’s actions saying,
How are people so rude? It’s no secret that I’ve gained weight throughout life. I’ve birthed two kids so it’s bound to happen. Do I realize I’m overweight? Yes. Do I want to be smaller? Yes. But am I okay with the way I look? Yes!! Why would a complete stranger go out of their way to insult someone? What if I was severely depressed? Or what if I was constantly made fun of for my weight and that one comment from that stranger pushed me over the edge? Luckily, I’m neither of those things. But people have got to start being nice. Having common sense. Being respectful. This lady knew nothing about me. I had my 5 month old son in the cart and I am SO thankful my 4 year old wasn’t with me to witness what happened. This lady also doesn’t know that I’ve lost nearly 50 pounds from my heaviest weight before having Grayson- but apparently that’s not good enough. My clothes were tighter than what I would normally wear but so what?! It shouldn’t matter what people wear.
Please, PLEASE, have some respect for people. You never know what someone is going through or if your one little comment, snicker, stare, whatever will be enough to break someone down or push them over the edge. I’m not writing this for sympathy but just as a plea to anyone who might read this to just be nice and have respect for people. I fear for my daughter to grow up in this world. We’ve gotta set a good example for our children.
I feel sad Stevens even apologized a little bit for her size, because she shouldn’t have to do that. First of all she just freaking had a baby five months ago, and secondly even if she hadn’t, IT DOESN’T MATTER!!! She looks great THE WAY SHE IS. And I echo her fears about her daughter having been with her. It’s bad enough that the lady insulted her in front of her infant, but I cannot imagine the effect if her four-year-old daughter had heard that woman’s words.
I am sure I am preaching to the choir here, but there’s no reason for any of us to approach a complete stranger in the grocery store unless we have something nice to say or something helpful to do for them. ‘Tis the season to not be a jerk face. Of course, I do give my complete blessing if you happen to see a total stranger body shaming another total stranger at the grocery store — go ahead and step in and put the body shamer in their place!!
Thanks Charli, for sharing your story. Hold your head up high, Mama! You are beautiful, and your message is helping others!