4. When you can’t leave stress at the door.
We get it—work and life can be stressful. We all feel it. You come home from a frustrating and tense day of work, wanting to decompress, but end up carrying the stress with you throughout the night.
Chances are likely your wife hasn’t seen you since breakfast and has been looking forward to spending time with you. Maybe her day was stressful too. When you get home, truly leave the stress of work at the door. It’s okay to talk about it and indeed your wife may want to, but after that let it go and enjoy your time at home. Don’t take the weight of the day out on your family, giving them your empty fumes, and miss what should be the most precious time of your day.
5. Fighting for your attention.
Work, kids, friends, family, hobbies, even pets want your attention! But this is how the order should work: God, wife, kids, and then what’s most important to you. God should get your best, without a doubt. After Him, your wife takes priority. I know this might seem contrary to popular belief for some but it’s true. Don’t make your wife have to fight for your attention. Don’t make her have to ask to spend quality time together. Surprise her with a date! Even cook her a meal at home. Make sure you always reserve time with her, each day. May she never doubt she’s the apple of your eye.
6. When you don’t share your thoughts and feelings.
Playing tough guy with your wife doesn’t work. Bottling up your feelings won’t help either. Your wife want’s to know you at the deepest parts of your soul. When you shut her out and play tough guy with your feelings, this will only hurt your relationship. Marriage requires open communication and trust to share, so find that safe place with her. If vulnerability with your spouse is hard, start by talking about that.