Just because you stop homeschooling doesn’t mean you were wrong to do it in the past.
Just because you stop homeschooling doesn’t mean you’ve “failed.”
Just because you don’t homeschool doesn’t mean you aren’t doing the best for your child.
We didn’t really “quit” homeschooling.
Instead, we made a new choice that was the best one for our family. Quitting implies failure and I don’t feel in any way that we failed in our children’s education. If you’ve “quit” homeschooling, I hope you don’t feel like a failure either. Because you’re not.
If it’s not the right choice any more, there’s no shame in making a new choice.
I don’t regret our homeschool years.
They were an amazing time of connecting with my kids. I grew in patience (boy, did I grow!) We learned so much together. I am a bit sad that I am no longer my kids’ primary teacher. But this new season is a good thing for us, much better than if I had given in to fear and continued homeschooling.
I still think homeschooling is great.
We still have lots of homeschool friends. They’re doing a great job of educating their kids. They have good days and bad ones just like the rest of the world.
I’ve always said I was only managing to homeschool because of the grace of God; without Him, I never would have been able to do it. And I am so grateful that He has directed me toward this new choice for my kids and for me.
My husband asked me why in the world I would want to publish this story.
Why would I share something so personal and put myself out there for criticism on such a sensitive topic? I told him I wanted to be honest with you, my audience, about our homeschooling journey.
But more importantly I wanted to encourage others who may be facing the same decision.
I’ve read lots of great articles about how to keep homeschooling through difficult times; there is excellent advice about dealing with homeschool burnout. All of these things are good and helpful. But sometimes it’s not a question of persevering through tough times or recovering from burnout. Sometimes, the right way is a new way. And that is what this post is all about.
If you haven’t read the comments on the earlier post, you should. Many brave moms have shared their stories there. I was blessed by their stories and I know you will be too.
Do you homeschool? How do you know when it’s the right time to make a change?
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This post originally appeared at earlybirdmom.com, published with permission
