What Matters Most in Raising Our Children

Do we teach our children the beauty of grace so that when they make wrong choices, they know they have the chance to ask for forgiveness and make a better choice next time?

Do they know that when we fall short, we don’t need to run, but we can keep seeking him, because he fully loves us as we are and where we are?

Do we show our kids what it looks like to seek him? To read his Word? To pray? To love others? By our example?

Do we bring Jesus into ordinary moments?

Thank you for loving your sister and the Lord well by putting away her laundry. 

Thank you for washing my dish without me asking – wow, you loved me so well by doing that.

When you reacted calmly to your brother’s hurtful words, you really loved him and the Lord well.

When you said thank you to the cashier, you sure showed her respect and that she matters.

I love how you asked for forgiveness after that bad moment. That is exactly how Jesus gives us hope – he turns ugly moments into beautiful ones.

If our children’s actions are driven by obligation or force, they will soon tire. But, if their choices are motivated by love for the Lord and others, they are more likely to continue.

As John Townsend, Christian counselor and author said: “The more you try to force your child to do or not to do something, the less effective you will likely be. Remember you are helping your child establish self-control from the inside, not parent-control from the outside.” 

When we guide our kids in doing things out of love and not force, they will experience more freedom and joy in following God’s commandments to love the Lord and love others. 

We get to be the ones by our children’s side, walking them through life, guiding them in how to love the Lord and others in everyday moments. And it is joy to my soul.

As we raise our children, instead of getting absorbed in making the “right” decisions, let’s rise to the greater call of teaching our children what it looks like to be motivated by love, to follow Jesus, and to seek the Lord first and always.

Linsey Driskill
Linsey Driskillhttp://LinseyDriskill.com
My husband and I live in South Carolina and have eight-year-old triplets. I’m passionate about encouraging families in following Jesus and his words: to love God and love others. I love authenticity, simplicity, spontaneity, and a good cup of coffee! You can find me at LinseyDriskill.com and @BeautifulHeartedParenting

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