I should have had that conversation with our triplets who had just turned eight. I should have shared those two words.
For Easter brunch, we celebrated with close friends. We sat on the patio so our children could play cornhole next to us.
I noticed a boy a few years older approach our kids to play. I didn’t think much of it at first, but I later had one of those unsettling feelings. So, I walked over to check on them several times.
Everything seemed fine. But, I had no idea, during that hour, what words were filling our children’s little minds. On the car ride home, I learned all about it.
This boy had told our kids every curse word in the book and said not to tell your parents. My daughters walked away at that point, but my son and my friend’s daughter stayed. The boy continued sharing other inappropriate topics, but thankfully, much of it went over our kids’ heads.
I missed it.
I’m usually perceptive if something inappropriate is happening, but that time, I missed it.
While we often tell our kids that they can talk to us about anything, I quickly realized there were two words I wish I had shared with them:
WALK AWAY. When someone talks about or does inappropriate things, just walk away.
It’s a simple concept, so I figured my kids would have known how to handle a situation like that. But, I missed it.
I was disappointed in myself for not following through on my gut feeling and knowing what was going on. I was disappointed that my son didn’t walk away like my daughters.
But then it hit me. As our kids get older, I can’t always be right there.
I would turn this into a teachable moment.
During the car ride home, we went over every curse word with them. We emphasized to our kids not to repeat the words and that they can always ask us any questions they have. Any questions at all.