There’s no denying that working moms do not have it easy. In fact, studies show that the average mother works the equivalent to two and a half FULL-TIME jobs. And with society and social media putting more pressure on moms than ever before, women across the internet are speaking out about just how challenging motherhood can be.
Sarah Buckley Friedberg took to Facebook with a compelling post about the pressures mothers face from day one, and her words have women everywhere shouting praises of agreement.
“Society to working moms: Go back to work 6-8 weeks after having the baby,” she wrote. “The baby who you spent 9-10 months growing inside of your body. Go back to work before you have finished healing or have had time to bond with your baby. Keep your mind on work, and not your tiny, helpless baby who is being watched and cared for by someone other than you. Make sure to break the glass ceiling and excel at your job — you can do anything a man can do! It is your job to show society this! Show the world that women can do it all. Rise to the top of your career.”
And that was just one of her 15 totally relatable and oh-so ridiculously high standards that are put on working moms everywhere.
Society to working moms:
-Go back to work 6-8 weeks after having the baby. The baby that you spent 9-10 months growing…
The Massachusetts mom of three posted the list of society’s “to-do’s” for mothers after a long day and an “epic” tantrum from her 3-year-old.
After being shared more than 75,000 times, we have to agree, she totally nailed it.
“Maintain a clean, Pinterest worthy house,” she continues. “Take the Christmas lights down. Recycle. Be Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, the birthday planner, the poop doula (seriously when will this end), the finder of lost things, the moderator of fights. Be fun. Be firm. Read books. Have dance parties.”
The list continues: Lose the baby weight, make sure to have friends — social time is SO important, get the kids to all of their doctors appointments, enroll them in every activity possible, be sure to keep up with their clothes they’re sure to grow out of the second you buy them, and don’t forget to date your spouse.
With each additional task she lists, Sarah’s sarcasm grows greater and greater, leading to more than 19,000 comments that read, “so true,” and “amen!”
Last but not least, Sarah says, “Enjoy your kids…make sure to love every minute of life because before you know it all of this will be in the past.”
She ends with this zinger, encouraging others in the journey: “I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to lean OUT. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.”
Sarah assured that she does, in fact, have a “wonderful” husband — a pediatrician — who “does at least half of the work around here.”
But help or no help, the pressures of society still remain: Self-care, pre-baby bodies, and having it all together, when in reality, you just can’t.
And for Sarah, it’s the “mental load” that falls on her plate more than anything else.
And that’s something every mother can relate to better than just about anything.