An Open Letter to New York — Sincerely, a Former Teen Mom

Cheyenne is 19, in college and is the brightest spot in my life. She is healthy and vivacious. She’s an artist that paints my world every day.

As for me? Married, three kids. Graduated high school, college, launched a women’s website, launched my own, helped co-found several ministries and businesses, and authored two books. How’s that for a bleak future?

The moment the doctor came back in and asked what decision I made, I remember telling him no. I remember how courage rose up above the shame and the fear.

I remember thinking, fear isn’t going to be her life or mine.

New York, fear shouldn’t win.

Fear shouldn’t be a life changing decision maker. We need to create a world where fear and desperation don’t push women to make the choice of abortion.

Let’s begin by not only standing behind our Pro-Life marches and posts on social media by standing in the gap.

Support foster care agencies in favor of re-uniting families.

Support single moms.

Volunteer in programs or ministries at women’s jails.

Start a Teen MOPS group.

Volunteer to watch her kids.

Bring a meal.

Befriend them.

Invite them over for coffee.

Give them a gas card.

Give them your child’s hand me downs.

Whatever the need, whatever your ability. Fill it.

It takes a village to raise a child, so let’s move our feet and open our hearts. We can’t let fear continue to win.


A Former Teen Mom

Heather Riggleman
Heather Riggleman
Heather Riggleman calls Nebraska home (Hey, it’s not for everyone). She roams small towns looking for stories and coffee with her husband and three kids. She writes to bring the perspective of bold truths and raw faith into universal concepts women face from marriage, career, mental health, depression, faith, relationships, to celebration and heartache. Heather is a former national award-winning journalist and the author of Mama Needs a Time Out and Let’s Talk About Prayer. Her work has been featured on Proverbs 31 Ministries, MOPS, Today's Christian Woman and Focus On the Family. You can find her on Facebook, Instagram Instagram, or at

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