A college football weekend was in full swing. As my friend walked down sorority row with her teenage daughter, the excitement was palpable—the energy, the sea of people in school colors, and the buzzing atmosphere.
Out of the blue, her daughter asked, “Mom, what’s the hardest part of college?”
Her mother replied with the first thing that came to mind: “Saying no.”
It was a funny yet profoundly true answer. Saying no is one of the hardest parts of college.
From saying no to late-night pizza, to choosing study time over social outings, to standing firm in your values, knowing when to say no is crucial. College is unbelievably fun, but it’s also a time of immense growth. Having four daughters, I often think about how to prepare them for this season of life.
Here are 20 things college girls should know:
1. Boundaries Are Good
College is a season where personal values can be easily compromised. With no one monitoring you, it’s up to you to set your own standards and stick to them.
2. Choose Friends Wisely
Your friends will shape who you become. Surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you and encourage your goals.
3. Friends Fill the Gaps When You’re Homesick
Your college friends become your family. The bonds you create will last a lifetime.
4. What You Put Into Your Body Matters
Food, alcohol, and drugs all impact your well-being. Love yourself enough to make healthy choices.
5. One Wrong Step Can Lead to More
If you make a mistake, learn from it. Don’t let it become a pattern that’s hard to reverse.
6. You Always Have a Choice
You’re never obligated to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Walk away when necessary.
7. Take Care of Your Friends
Be the friend who steps up—whether it’s taking away car keys or stopping someone from making a bad decision.
