Birth Photographer Shames C-Section Mom: “You Aren’t Giving Birth”

Today is my oldest child’s 13th birthday. Thirteen years ago, after 12 hours of labor and a full 10-centimeter dilation, I gave birth to him by C-section. The reason? Well apparently I don’t  have “birthing hips.” Or, as my doctor said after she delivered him, “His head would not fit under the small arch in your pubic bone.”

My very first c-section baby. February 27, 2004. Despite the fact that he was surgically removed from my womb instead of pushed out of my vagina, he’s turned out to be an AMAZING kid!

Well, THANK GOD for c-sections, then. With my 2nd and 3rd children, I opted for a c-section as well. My doctor said based on my anatomy she thought we’d have to induce early to get a baby small enough to fit through my apparently petite insides. Evict the baby early just so I could “maybe” have a VBAC? I decided that wasn’t a good idea. And I didn’t want to do BOTH recoveries again.

I find it ironic that today, on the 13th anniversary of my first c-section, this ABHORRENT post showed up in my Facebook news feed, posted to the Breastfeeding Mama Talk page. An anonymous member of the page sent this screenshot to the admins of a text conversation she had with a birth photographer about photographing her upcoming scheduled c-section. What the photographer said made my JAW DROP!

This is not okay would love to know who this photographer is! 😡😡😡😡😡😡 !
Moms who have had a C-section you’re just as much…

Posted by Breastfeeding Mama Talk on Saturday, February 25, 2017

Is your blood BOILING yet?? Mine sure is — times THREE! The number of times I GAVE BIRTH via c-section. I especially cringed with pain for this mom when I read this line: “This motherhood job is hard, if I were you I’d think twice about starting such a job by cutting corners so early in the game.”

WHAT??? I cannot believe that a professional business person would send a perspective client such a hateful, shaming, hurtful message at one of the most delicate times of her life, just because she’s so convinced that her beliefs about birth are the only ones that are CREDIBLE.


This poor expectant mama! My heart hurts for her.

Having had three c-sections, I know there is nothing easy about it. I would have loved to have had my kids the traditional way, but to be honest, my first child’s birth was scary and dangerous BEFORE the c-section…the c-section saved us. This photographer has NO idea why this mom needs a c-section, how DARE she judge??

Moms, it’s time to stop being so attached to OUR WAY being RIGHT and start being attached to showing LOVE AND KINDNESS to our fellow moms. The birth photographer had ONE thing right—this mom job IS hard, and there’s no reason for us to make it harder on each other. Especially not from the “get go”.

Do you know an expectant mama? PLEASE send her an encouraging word today!!! Let’s be the opposite of this mom shamer!

Jenny Rapson
Jenny Rapson is a follower of Christ, a wife and mom of three from Ohio and a freelance writer and editor. You can find her at her blog, Mommin' It Up, or follow her on Twitter.

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