Yes, I CAN Be My Kids’ Friend AND Their Parent—and So Can You

My three-year-old, with springy curls and mismatched florals, bounds up our backyard and whispers to me, “Mommy, you my best fwend!” With Mother’s Day just behind us, I’m reminded that one of the best gifts I could ask for is to be called my child’s friend, even when such phrases are as fickle as you’d expect a 3-year-old’s temperament to be. However, I had to work through some tension before I could embrace that phrase for all it’s worth.

Mothers Day FB Image

You see, I’ve heard a lot of well-intentioned, seasoned parents and teachers herald the mantra that “You are not your children’s friend. You are their parent!” The same is often said for the teacher/student relationship. I see their sentiment. Our society likes to make a lot of absolutisms as a way to overcorrect. But, first, it’s built on a faulty logic that we only obtain friends by trying to win over people. As well as the faulty logic that parenting and friendship are mutually exclusive. It also runs counter to one of our main image-bearing functions: to be relational (Need I go on?!).


Sarah Paschall
Sarah Paschall
Sarah Paschall is a follower of Christ, writer, educator, stay-at-home mom, medical spouse, and much more. She writes to find sanity, spread encouragement, and to process the everyday lessons through the lens of truth. She moves around a bit, but she's currently tending her chirpy little nest in South Carolina. You can consistently find her at her blog (embracingthechapters.com), Instagram (@sarahapaschall), or through email ([email protected]).

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