God wants us to be stretched by our friends. God uses friendships to help us grow into people that are more like Christ. So that means that sometimes if we have a friend that checks 3 of our 7 made-up list items, we shouldn’t be frustrated… we should celebrate!
2. Get involved with an existing church group
Your church might have a ministry group for women or even for moms. As a pastor’s wife, I know that your church wishes more women were involved in it! If you have disagreements with a particular philosophy, or if you think that your group is outdated… it’s even truer that you need to get involved. To state it simply: you are the change that your church needs.
If your church doesn’t have a moms group and you don’t have the energy or resources to start one, try searching for a MOPS group (Mothers of Preschoolers) at a neighboring church.
3. Start a church group or small group
If your church only has a women’s ministry and you’d like one that’s mom-specific, request a meeting with your pastor and start one! Your pastor would be thrilled to learn of your heart for ministry and will help you as much as he is able to!
4. Volunteer in a local library playtime or toddler time
Moms should be involved in a church small group if possible, but we are also called to be missionaries in our communities! Get out there and serve others and draw them to Christ. Maybe the feeling of friendship that you need will be fulfilled by doing a little elbow-grease style evangelism in your community.
5. Invest in the friendships that you already have
As I mentioned earlier, every mom wants a friend that pursues her and initiates conversation. Be that friend for someone else. It makes you lay down your pride. And you might be surprised that the friend you were looking for was there all along.
The Cure for Mom Loneliness
Loneliness is one of the most used and most effective tools used by the devil. He wants us to feel alone, and hopeless as moms. God created us for community… for the fellowship of a church body that lives and moves together. The lonely mom was never intended to be a “thing”—it is a consequence of the fallen world we are living in.
Isn’t that how God works? He’s building us together and causing us to grow; both as individuals and as a fellowship of moms.
Allow God to work through you to not only cure your own mom loneliness but also help meet the needs of the people around you.
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This article originally appeared at Christcenteredmama.com, published with permission.
