32 Things I’d Go Back and Tell My Teen Self

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1. Not everyone is going to like you and it’s fine. Be kind. Be fun. Be yourself. Give them your very best self and then move along if you need to. There’s a whole world of people out there, and some of them just weren’t made for you, and you weren’t made for them. Trust me, it’s fine.

2. Nobody cares that much about the way you look. Don’t decline an invitation because you have a giant zit on your forehead. Don’t have a bad attitude because your hair is being frizzy and doing that weird loopy thing. Don’t take two hours to put on five layers of foundation. Your looks will never be the most important part about you.

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3. You have a purpose NOW. Yes, you’re working really hard to build a future, and that’s great. But your life matters now. You have work to do right where you are standing. There are people who need what you have right in front of your face. Don’t wait for tomorrow to become somebody who matters, become it now.

4. Your heart is gonna break. More than once. You’re gonna fall face-first on the hardwood floor and you are going to think you’ll never ever stand again. But you will. And when you rise up, you will be more resilient. You will be wiser. You will be stronger.

5. Make girlfriends before boyfriends. You’re gonna meet the right guy. God’s got one for you. But in the meantime – CHILL OUT A HOT MINUTE. Make some good, solid friendships. Focus on building a relationship with the girls you are laughing with and learning with. 9 out of 10 of those boys won’t matter in the very near future (and maybe none of them will), but if you play your cards right, those friendships will last a lifetime. They’ll be the ones standing beside you when you do finally meet the right guy.

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6. You don’t need to impress anyone. Stop living life like it’s an interview and you’re on the defense.

7. Know your worth. Don’t let the world around you shake the platform of self-confidence you’ve been building. Your value doesn’t change based on whether other people see it or not. Your value doesn’t change based on whether you get passed over, or looked over, or picked over.

8. Listen to your mom.

9. Popularity isn’t what it seems. It’s better to have a couple of true friends than a whole slew of people who would trade you in at the drop of a hat. Choose people who choose you.

10. Don’t live by other people’s compliments. Don’t die by other people’s criticisms. Take it all with a grain of salt.

11. You’re never going to catch that perfection you’ve been chasing. You may fail a test. You may bomb an interview. You may gain 10 lbs during Christmas break. You may disappoint someone you love. You may not be class president. You’re never going to be perfect, just be the best you can.

12. Wear sunscreen. That tan looks good now. Those wrinkles will haunt you later.

13. Comparison is the thief of joy. Stay in your lane. Looking around is going to slow you down. Looking around is going to stall your speed. Looking around is going to stop you right in your tracks. Be happy for the girl whose grass is green, but meanwhile, you just keep watering your own lawn.

14. Insecurity is the thief of pretty much everything. Be firm in who you are. Be sure in what you’re doing. Be secure in the direction you are headed.

15. Your words are important. Don’t throw stones, use them to build a bridge between you and other people. Think first. Speak second.

16. It doesn’t really matter if the world accepts you. It doesn’t really matter if the world rejects you. What matters are the things you give to the world to make it a better place.

17. Stop trying to fight your weirdness. Stop trying to fight your awkwardness. Stop trying to fight your inability to totally conform. Being a difference-maker, means you’re going to think, going to be a little different. It’s fine. Actually, it’s more than fine. It’s the best part about you.

18. You’re not better than anyone. You’re not worse than anyone.

19. Don’t grab the low-hanging piece of fruit just because it’s the easiest to reach.

20. The best people in life are free. Live in the freedom to be real and authentic and exactly who you want to be.

21. People will surprise you. Be nice to everyone you meet. Open your door to people who look different, act different, and think different. You’ll never change, you’ll never grow, you’ll never stretch yourself if you don’t expose yourself to new ideas and new people. You’ll make friends with the most unexpected people in the most unexpected places. Build a bigger table.

22. It’s ok to let people go. In fact, it’s not just ok, it’s healthy. If they want to walk away, open the door, give them a hug, send them on their merry way. But keep the door open, so the right people have a chance to get inside.

23. If someone gossips about you, if someone is ugly to you, if someone is mean to you. If someones slanders your name, or tosses your reputation out the window, it says more about who they are as a person than it does about who you are as a person. Their words, if untrue, don’t deserve a home in your heart, so don’t give them one.

24. Social media, magazine covers, reality tv, filters on Snapchat – those things aren’t real life. Do your best not to confuse the two.

25. Nothing just happens. You have to make it happen. You have to put in the effort for it to come to fruition.

26. If it won’t matter one year from now, it’s not worth your time, or your energy now. If the craziness swirling around won’t matter tomorrow, don’t let it affect your today.

27. Don’t be a copy-cat. I know you want those new shoes because everyone else has them. I know you do. I know you want new highlights because she has new highlights. I know you want to be on the volleyball team because all the popular kids are on the volleyball team. I know you don’t know exactly who you are yet, so you are spending your time trying to find it in other people. You won’t find it there.

28. It’s ok for your pages to be unwritten. You hold the pen. You decide what gets scribbled on those blank pages in front of you. It’s fine not to know what’s next, but it’s not ok to stop trying, to stop working, to stop believing. You are the author of you own story. Make it a good one.

29. Your family will always be there for you. Spend more time with them.

30. Press on. I know you probably won’t believe me, but these really tough moments will become the really defining moments. They won’t break you, but they will make you. They will form you, but only if you allow them to really sink in. Only if you decide to stand back up again. Only if you decide to grow from them and not give in to the pain they cause. These really difficult times will be the seeds that cause you to blossom and become something more if you let them.

31. Getting older isn’t so bad. Love the stage you’re in – and not paying bills and all, but look forward to the next stage too.

32. Give God your heart, your mind, your future. Trust in Him. Believe in Him. Study His word. Everything else about your life will shift and change and move around, but His love will remain steady. Everything else will sway, but His love will stay. No matter what.

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This article originally appeared on Amy Weatherly’s Facebook page.


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Amy Weatherly
Amy loves red lipstick, graphic tees, and Diet Dr. Pepper a little more than she probably should. Most days you can find her lounging in sweatpants, or running kids from one place to the other like a crazy person. Her family is her home and her passion is helping women find courage, confidence, and the deep-rooted knowledge that their life has a deep and significant purpose. Make sure to come follow her on Facebook.