To the Woman Who Has Never Lost a Baby, From Your Friend Who Has

I don’t write all this so you feel guilty about your blessings. Children are a blessing, and they deserve to be celebrated.

I write it so you’ll be aware. Before you post that complaint on Facebook, think about the woman who just returned home from an ultrasound appointment and is now deciding how she wants to deliver her no-longer-living baby. Before you fill your newsfeed with “all things pregnancy,” think about the woman who just found out she will likely never be able to carry a child.

I’m not advocating you never share about your children online. Not at all. What I am advocating is that you think before you post.

Think about me and others like me who long to hold a baby in their arms but can’t.

I am writing this post in honor of the babies I long to hold: Eden, Jesse, Ella and Jadon. It is because of them I now understand the silent sufferers of baby loss, miscarriage and infertility.

Will you join me in honoring the silent sufferers around you? Honor them by being sensitive to their broken hearts, especially when you share online. Honor them by remembering their babies with them. And honor them by being thankful for the blessings in your own life. Don’t forget, especially on the hard days of parenting, that someone else would give anything to be in your shoes.

Lindsey Bell
Lindsey Bell
Lindsey Bell is the author of Searching for Sanity, a devotional book for busy moms. She's also a speaker for women's events, a blogger at, and a stay-at-home mother of two. She's an avid reader and a lover of all things chocolate. You can find her online at

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