Why We Should Stop Telling Our Kids ‘You Can be Anything You Want to be’

As a teacher and a parent, I often think about the messages that we convey to children and how children actually receive those messages.

One message that I often hear—and that I have given, myself—is: “You can be anything you want to be.” I no longer believe this is a healthy message to give to children because it’s just not true.

There are many barriers to “being anything you want to be;” these include ability, life circumstances, finances, accidents and biology, just to name a few.

This message, unfortunately, can breed entitlement and narcissism.

What happens when a child grows up and encounters a roadblock on his way to achieving his life goals and plans? When life is all about that child, if something unexpected happens, like say, an unplanned pregnancy or a parent’s debilitating stroke, will the now grown child be able to adjust to the new reality? Or, will he look for ways to get rid of his problems and continue on course to achieve his lifelong goals?

What happens in a marriage when someone has been taught that life is all about one’s own happiness? When marriage gets tough and an accident causes a spouse to become disabled, can these self-absorbed people realize their spouse now needs them more than ever; will they be able to make the sacrifices that need to be made?

I think our message to boys and girls should be: “You were created for a purpose; find your purpose.”

This leaves room for life to happen. We need to fill our kids’ minds with stories of great men and women from the past who showed extraordinary courage, honor, mercy and integrity during tough times. Our children need to hear about people like Mother Teresa, who, when others were stepping over people dying in the streets, she picked them up and took them to a home where they could die with dignity and be loved in their last few moments on Earth.


Amy Haywood
Amy Haywood
Amy Haywood is a mom, wife, writer and an educator. She holds a bachelor’s degree in media communication, a master’s degree in international journalism, and a master’s degree in national security and strategic studies. Her professional experience is primarily in government and education. She grew up in Texas to diligent and involved parents who named her for the 19th Century missionary to India, Amy Carmichael. Like her namesake, Amy also has a passion for protecting children and seeing them succeed in life.

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