Stop Apologizing
You are doing a damn good job. Even on our worst days, if we simply show up, that’s a success. Don’t let other peoples’ judgment get in the way of a happy holiday for you. Apologize for nothing. If Aunt Jackie thinks the kids are too loud, that’s her problem. Smile and be proud of your socially outgoing children. If your sister-in-law thinks your sweet potato soufflé is too dry, smile and remind her that’s how it’s served in France. (It’s totally okay to roll your eyes when she walks away.)
Stop Comparing
Comparison is the thief of joy. Repeat after me: Comparison is the thief of joy. Our joy is a precious resource and should not be given away because of someone else. My Christmas tree will never look amazing. I may never be able to make sugar cookies that don’t spread out into unrecognizable globs of dough. My hard-boiled eggs may never be evenly peeled. As long as we are making memories as a family, memories that my children enjoy, how I stack up against other people no longer matters. AT ALL. I refuse to give up my joy because someone else had the time and talent to create perfect little snowmen out of unmatched socks.
Lastly, remember that the holiday season doesn’t last forever. This too shall pass. Don’t end up looking and feeling like my son’s panicked turkey. Cheers! xoxo
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A version of this piece originally appeared at Entermothering.com, published with permission.
