‘We Didn’t Know’ — Grieving Parents Teach Teens About Food Allergies After Daughter’s Tragic Death

When Allison Rose Suhy was first diagnosed with a peanut allergy as a toddler, her family learned quickly how to create a safe environment for their little girl to grow and live a normal life. One that included the usual birthday parties, summer camps and class snacks, but had a heightened focus on protecting her from the one thing that could be potentially life-threatening.

They eliminated peanuts from Allison’s world, and equipped themselves with Benadryl and EpiPens just to be safe.

“She went through her life as normal as our two other kids,” Allison’s father, Michael Suhy, told TODAY Parents. “She missed out on some birthday cake, but it was never the end of the world. She was safe. She really was safe.”

But when Allison left for college in the fall of 2017, that safe environment she was used to did not go with her. Now the Suhy family wants to help other families with food allergies prepare for the same transition.

After starting her freshman year at Ohio University, Suhy says Allison “flourished.”

“She loved high school, but she really loved college,” he said. ”She was a leader.”

Allison joined a sorority, Alpha Xi Delta, and made great friends. And to her family’s surprise, a fiercely independent Allison called home more often than they had expected. She FaceTimed often with her younger sister Jenna (then 16) and younger brother Ryan (then 9).

She was happy and thriving. That’s what Suhy saw in November of 2017 when he left his Allison after visiting the college for “Dads’ Weekend.” He never expected his goodbye that day would be their last.

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That very same night, Suhy received “the call no food allergy parent ever wants to get,” telling him Allison was having an allergic reaction to something she ate at a study session.

Suhy stayed calm, recalling all of the times in the past when Allison’s worst reactions were simply treated with Benadryl.

“Never once had we experienced anaphylaxis,” said her dad. “Never once had we needed to use the EpiPen.”

But nerves heightened when he heard someone in the background say “CPR.” A 20-year veteran of the fire department and the Fire Chief of Cuyahoga Heights, Ohio, himself, Suhy understood then that the situation might be more critical than he first thought.

He rushed to meet paramedics at the hospital where Allison was already unconscious. She was later flown to from Athens to Columbus, Ohio for a higher level of care.

Four days after receiving that terrible call, doctors informed the Suhy family that the swelling in Allison’s brain was too much for her to ever recover, and the 18-year-old passed away.

When Allison left for college, ”We never thought, ‘Boy, you’re leaving this safety net, this cocoon, we need to arm you with some education and talking points,'” said Suhy. “It never crossed our mind to do that, because she was 17, 18 years old; she could read a label.

“We didn’t realize that you should talk to your roommate; you should tell them you have an Epipen and where it is. You should talk to your Resident Advisor,” he added. “We never thought to do that.”

Soon after her tragic death, Suhy and his wife—Allison’s stepmother, Rebecca— decided to honor Allison’s memory by helping to prepare other young adults with food allergies and their families for the transition to college.

“She was a helper; she was a giver,” said Suhy, who said Allison had been a camp counselor for children with autism and hoped to be a teacher someday. “We wanted to continue her legacy of helping and giving and educating.”

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They created the Allison Rose Foundation to educate other teenagers and soon-to-be college freshmen on how to live safely with food allergies outside of their safety net in college and beyond.

The foundation will teach young adults to make sure those around them — like roommates or RAs — are aware they have food allergies, where they keep their EpiPens, how to use EpiPens, and the signs and symptoms of an allergic reaction.

“We want them to know you can still live a normal life, but wherever you’re going to be, you are going to have to re-educate those around you so you can be safe,” said Suhy.

The Allison Rose Foundation will also sponsor a scholarship for a graduating senior at Allison’s high school who will serve as an ambassador of the organization on their own college campus.

Suhy says his daughter would be proud of all that’s happening with the foundation. His hope as a father is to do everything he can for his kids, and to spare other allergy parents the grief he’s had to live.

“We have walked in their shoes,” he said, “and I really don’t want them to have to walk in mine.”

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Bri Lamm
Bri Lamm
Bri Lamm is the Editor of foreverymom.com. An outgoing introvert with a heart that beats for adventure, she lives to serve the Lord, experience the world, and eat macaroni and cheese all while capturing life’s greatest moments on one of her favorite cameras. Follow her on Facebook.

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