Are the conversations you’re having something better shared with your spouse? We all want someone to listen to our deepest hopes and dreams with interest and intrigue, but are your conversations outside of your marriage something that you should be having at home instead?
Would I want my husband to share with another woman his most secret dreams?
No. I want those conversations for our special relationship.
Would I want my husband to share my inadequacies with a female coworker?
So why would I share his with another man?
It’s almost like the Golden Rule of marriage. You treat your spouse the way you would wish to be treated, and they in turn do the same. You don’t act in a manner that would make your spouse uncomfortable or hurt their feelings, and you don’t do anything in their absence that you wouldn’t also do in their presence. So if you’ll ask yourself would I do or say this if they were here, and if the answer happens to be “no” then it’s time to change your behavior. It might just end up saving your marriage.
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This article originally appeared at BrieGowen.com.
