6. A wife needs a husband committed to their wedding vows.
I needed God’s help for us to look beyond our pain and instead make a commitment to uphold our wedding vows.
“For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31
7. A wife needs a husband who is full of wisdom.
Because heartache shook our relationship, I longed for my husband to be filled with wisdom to lead the restoration of our home.
“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” Matthew 7:24-25
8. A wife needs a husband who longs to follow all of God’s commands.
Since we were both vulnerable and lost, I needed my husband and me to be filled with Godly discernment.
”My son, preserve sound judgment and discernment, do not let them out of your sight; they will be life for you, an ornament to grace your neck. Then you will go on your way in safety, and your foot will not stumble…” Proverbs 2:21-23
9. A wife needs a husband she can trust.
I wanted to hear the truth from his lips. I longed to believe in his word and trust in his commitments.
“Above all, my brothers, do not swear–not by heaven or by earth or by anything else. Let your “Yes” be yes, and your “No,” no, or you will be condemned.” James 5:12
10. A wife needs a husband dedicated to prayer.
I stayed awake at night, wishing him to repent, to express remorse, and wished to hear his acknowledgment that he had marred our marriage.
“Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight so that you are proved right when you speak and justified when you judge… a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.” Psalm 51:4 and 1
After weeks of diligent prayer, I drew courage from God’s wisdom. And I drew strength from His truth. In a loving way, I expressed my needs and expectations clearly.
He heard them all as he saw the change in me. I wasn’t the shaken up, afraid wife anymore. Instead, I had become confident In God’s power to change. He did a transformation in me. And I knew He would do the same in my husband too.
We sat at the kitchen table one evening and he held my hand. “I made my decision,” he said, “I’m leaving it all behind and I will be devoted to you and our sons.”
We began to pray together. We started to talk. He became my best friend. We fell in love all over again, and on a cruise ship, we recently celebrated 41 years of marriage.
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This post originally appeared at Crosswalk.com, published with permission.
