2. Superiority: Let’s hush when we are right.
Gloating over your mate being wrong? That might be worse than never admitting wrongdoing. Sometimes we nail it. And just because we can wave the “I told you so” banner boldly, doesn’t mean we should. Some of the most powerful moments in my marriage have been when one of us was right and we didn’t say a word. It’s called grace, and you just can’t have too much with your spouse.
3. Selfishness: Let’s support our spouse even if it costs us something.
No one has to teach us how to be selfish. We just are naturally good at it. Sometimes our spouses need our support—in a job they hate, in a health crisis, emotional support or a battle for their soul. When we join them in their fight, we are reminding them they are not alone in their struggle.
So, we have a new family game plan for my husband’s health. Give and take. More of this, less of that. And the great thing is it’s really for our family’s health. Because we are a team and we want him around.
The bottom line is this: I love my husband. I love my marriage.
And I’m willing to give up some things to make it better.
