How to Love Your Spouse When They’re Difficult to Live With

“She’s difficult to live with. You might want to think twice before asking her to marry you.”

A member of my family told this to my now husband, and although we both chuckled when this dear family member gave my husband this advice, there is truth to these words.

I can be difficult to live with, and so can my husband.

You can even say there are moments when both of us are downright unlovable.

Think about it for a minute.

You and your spouse love each other, but you’re not the same in personality or opinions. You’re different in so many ways!

There are times when you’re the best of friends and other moments when you’ll get on each other’s nerves to the point where you want a few feet in between you two.

Marriage can be hard, but the secret to loving your spouse when they’re unlovable isn’t as difficult as you think.

I’m going to share with you the secrets my husband and I have learned after several years of marriage with loving one another.

And I know you’re going to love them!

How To Love Your Spouse When They’re Unlovable

  1. Dating your spouse is vital to the success of your relationship.

If you have little ones running around and family far away, I completely understand. This is mine and my husband’s situation.

It’s not easy leaving the home and quite frankly when money is tight, you feel guilty and can feel overwhelmed at the cost of going out.

My husband and I learned we can date while having small children at home and we can even stay home to have a romantic evening together (for free).

For me, I found when my husband and I stopped dating each other and felt more like roommates, our relationship became shaky.

We were often upset with each other, quick to snap and make rude comments, or completely pass by each other without a friendly smile or kind word.

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2. Thrive on communicating and laughing.

How often do you really talk to each other?

When was the last time you didn’t talk about the weather, work, or the children?

How often do you sit down and laugh with each other?

My husband and I thrive on communicating and laughing. There are so many times when we find ourselves saying, “I thought you said…” or “Didn’t you mean this?”

Micah Klug
Micah Klug
Micah Klug loves being a mother and helping other women DIY their home on a budget, grow their faith in Christ, love their marriage, and strengthen their family relationships by living simply without losing their quality of life or sanity. She writes at where you can download your free marriage ebook, “Love Again: 100+ Conversation Questions to Strengthen Your Relationship.”

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