Photo: Kid Bell
It seems like I write a lot of articles with tears running down my face these days. This comes, I suppose from the inevitable combination of my emotions being “go big or go home” in all things and the fact that we live in a world that enjoys making evil look like goodwill.
‘No wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light.’ 2 Corinthians 11:14
There are times when I think I just cannot take it any more, and this morning was one of those times. A friend sent me this article from TEEN Vogue, entitled 11 Thoughtful Gifts Your Friend Who Just Had an Abortion Would Appreciate—
—AND THEN MY HEAD EXPLODED.
Ok, obviously, it didn’t explode. I’m still here. But I did start shaking and crying—a combination of rage and grief that my body could not keep inside itself.
If this piece was in Vogue, I might roll my eyes, but I wouldn’t be enraged. But it’s not in Vogue, friends, it’s in TEEN Vogue, and it’s aimed at our daughters ages 13-19. And it is clearly designed to make abortion seem like no big deal.
Abortion is the ending of a human life, and it is ALWAYS a big deal. But the language TEEN Vogue is using here belittles the gravity of abortion. It is a beating heart that STOPS, a living being torn apart, and something the girl or woman who chooses it will have to live with forever. Yet TEEN Vogue breaks it down like this:
“The worst part of all this isn’t the procedure itself (which by the way is completely safe as long as you have access to a good clinic). The worst part is how you’re treated afterwards…She will need a ride, she will need a hug, and she will need you — not because the act itself is so terrible, but because sometimes the world can be.”
Translation: Abortion ain’t no big THANG, GIRL! It’s just that people THINK it is.
Oh, ok. My mistake.
I absolutely think that every woman who chooses to have an abortion should be treated with care and dignity. She should be loved and cared for by her friends and family no matter what. But I absolutely and unapologetically do not think she should be given a care package full of flippant gifts that belittle the value of the life she’s ended with her decision and the life-long emotional consequences it will have on her.
(And if YOU have had an abortion and want to heal, there ARE resources for you. You are LOVED you are NOT alone. Check out Hope After Abortion for starters.)
Yet, here is what TEEN Vogue is suggesting that YOUR DAUGHTERS give to their friends (who could also be YOUR or MY daughters) after they have an abortion. I’ll just highlight a few.
THINX period panties
These are panties you can wear during your period. I have nothing against these panties. What I DO protest is the flippant way TEEN Vogue discusses them related to abortion, with light-hearted language aimed at our daughters, saying, “If you haven’t already heard about THINX undies then I am about to rock yo’ world,” and “Technically they are made for your period, but that’s no reason not to rock em for post-abortion woes, especially because there will be blood.”
This Christian girl may have uttered an expletive after reading that line. “Rock em”?? REALLY?
An “Angry Uterus” Heating Pad
Again, it’s not the product I’ve got an objection to. It’s the language TEEN Vogue uses to describe the symptoms this heading pad will help with. The author describes the post-abortion pain using light-hearted sarcasm: “You’ll love it! It’s like 2 throbbing hot balls of lead are trying to escape your body, all while your stomach contracts over and over again. Huzzahhhhh!” I guess adding “because a living human being was just surgically removed from your uterus” in there might make abortion seem like too much of a downer.
The Angry Uterus heating pad can’t hold a candle to my personal favorite gift for your friend who’s just had an abortion:
The “F*** You Uterus” pin:
Photo: Kid Bell
I mean, what better to cheer you up after an abortion than a pin of a uterus giving someone the middle finger? BONUS: As Teen Vogue says you should “Snag this bb for your bed-ridden bestie and swoop one for yourself too, because the proceeds benefit Planned Parenthood, and they need all the support we can give em.”
Ohhh, I get it. Nice commercial there, for the country’s largest abortion provider. Well played.
Signing Up to Be an Abortion Clinic Escort
This is my personal favorite. YES, the best way to honor your friend who just had an abortion is for you, a teenager, to take on the very adult burden of escorting women in and out of abortion clinics to “protect” them from pro-life advocates. And I quote: “Now that you know all the ways to get through this ordeal, why don’t you make it a little easier for the next girl and sign up to be an abortion clinic escort.”
I encourage you, my reader, to head on over and read all of TEEN Vogue’s article, but especially this part, which is nothing more than an excuse to make a very influential statement about abortion to a group of impressionable teens. It’s not exactly unbiased. (Of course, neither am I.) The author adds, “I won’t lie to you, it’s not an easy job, there is a training process, and very little thanks. But there is no better way to understand your own process than by helping someone else through it.”
Sounds like someone is trying to sell abortion to me.
Listen, I am a 39-year-old mother of three. And YES, I have a daughter. And YES, if she ever gets an abortion, I will love her right through it. And I will also grieve with my whole heart. As I’ve said, my daughter and your daughter are the targets of TEEN Vogue’s article here — so rather than taking my word for it, why don’t you take the word of one of their peers, of one of TEEN Vogue’s target demographic? This is 16-year-old Autumn Lindsey, and she’ll tell you exactly what she thinks of TEEN Vogue’s gift list—and it’s thinly-veiled attempt to sell abortion as “normal” and even “good” to girls like her. She says it WAY better than I ever could, and I’m beyond proud of this young woman.
See, TEEN Vogue? You’re not just riling up pro-life Moms like me, you’re also firing up those in your demographic who aren’t afraid to call you out. And girls like Autumn, well, they’re going to change the world with WAY more than a uterus pin.