For a child faced with a predator, the following could make the difference between a child who has to live with abuse or a child who prevented the cycle from continuing with them.
- Our children need to trust that we will believe and support them, no matter what.
- Our children need to know that we are behind them, regardless of what a perpetrator says or does!
- Our children need to know that we are strong enough to take care of them, no matter the circumstances or what they have been told.
- Our children need to understand they have a powerful voice, especially in confusing, fearful, and uncertain situations. They need to feel free to speak, and we need to be able to listen without criticism, judgement, or doubt.
When we give our children a voice, they will be able to express themselves freely and protect themselves against unwanted and unwarranted behavior. Lastly, we need to show compassion and empathy for our children so they will feel comfortable speaking up and sharing their own truths, regardless of the situation.
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Mannette Morgan is the author of “Finding Your Voice: A Path to Recovery for Survivors of Abuse.”
