‘I Don’t Care About Your Dishes, I Care About You’—Mom Drops Truth About Unplanned Visits

We’ve all been there: a friend stops by for an impromptu visit, and your first and only thought is how much of a mess your house is.

It’s embarrassing and regardless of who’s visiting, the sheer sign of a messy house is enough to make most moms crawl out of their skin.

We all know that a messy house just means a life well-lived. Some of us even have it on a canvas on our walls: “Please excuse the mess, my children are making memories.”

But no matter how much we embrace it, we all feel the same mom guilt when the houses just aren’t clean.

Laura Mazza, the mommy-genius behind Mum on the Run shared a powerful message on her Facebook page about your messy house, and it’s a MUST-read for every mama out there today.

“I went to a friends house and I wiped my finger along her walls to see the dust.

I then went into her bedroom to see if there were dirty clothes on the floor and if her bed was made. 

I went into her laundry to check her washing had been done and looked inside her sink to see if she had washed the dishes.

I checked out what she was wearing and smelled her hair to see if she washed it.”

“Actually i didn’t do any of those things and not because I’m not a creep, but because none of those things even cross my mind when I go to visit a friend.

When I visit you, my friend, or when any of us come to visit. We don’t care about the toys on your floor, the dishes, the laundry. We don’t judge how many days it’s been since you’ve washed your hair as a sign of what type of person you are, or if you have your [stuff] together.

You could open the door with your boob hanging out, your husbands old football shorts and some vomit in your hair, and all I will see is you.

I don’t care about your dishes, I care about you.

I care about how you’re doing, how you’re coping, if you’re happy and if you need a coffee or a triple shot of gin.

I care about you as a person, not how your laundry is folded or how many toys are on the floor. I care about if you need a hug, or to laugh or to just swear at the top of your lungs because life is getting too much.

You are not your dishes, you are not your laundry, you’re not your dirty T-shirt or your unwashed bun. You’re a person that I love, and as your friend I don’t care about your house, I care about YOU. The cleaning will never define you, only you define you.”

Laura says this is a topic near and dear to her heart, and if she could, she’d write about it 40 times a day! That’s because, as moms, we have more than enough to worry about. Being self-conscious about our living space around those who care for us most should not be one of them.

Thankful always for Laura’s raw and real truths, and her encouragement to mothers everywhere that there’s nothing in this world that could ever let an unkept house or dirty laundry define you.

Bri Lamm
Bri Lamm
Bri Lamm is the Editor of foreverymom.com. An outgoing introvert with a heart that beats for adventure, she lives to serve the Lord, experience the world, and eat macaroni and cheese all while capturing life’s greatest moments on one of her favorite cameras. Follow her on Facebook.

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